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我愿意给每个人机会，但是过程中也会把利弊说清楚，就是不知道这个追体现在哪里……如果是对我这个人的想法感兴趣，就算实际聊起来并不适合也完全可以相处成朋友吧，如果是别的方面，比如现实层面上的，我应该会逃走。

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关系中最困难的就是这个二分法，还是看人和相处久了的判断

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是的，所以就算互相有很大的好感，唐突告白也会让对方瞬间产生很大的压力清醒过来

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消除难得幻想

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又幻想了，幻想有人会主动追你 $\":tieba_laugh:\"$

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经典反面教材，再拿出来鞭一次尸 $\":cherry_blossom_cat:\"$

\n $\"Ecoli\"$ \n Ecoli — #1 in 记一次失败的表白\n

大肠杆君（以下称“常”）正如往常一样在寝室休息，突然收到了一位很久没有联系的高中女同学（以下称”张“）的微信。

背景

高一时常和张分在同一个班里，机缘巧合下他们同时被学生会录取，并安排在同一天值班，于是常和张有了很多独处的时间。出于对各种巧合的感慨，常对张很照顾，无论是在学习方面还是在生活方面，常都表现出高度的耐心与细致。就这样若即若离过了一年，高二文理分科，常和张去了不同的班级，同时常为了专心学习也退出了学生会。常再很少想起张，张却时不时来找常，每次就是在门口聊一段时间，交流当前的状况，吐槽学校和老师。又这样的状态又维持了一年，张出国去读美高，常继续备战高考。张临走前，曾希望再见常一面，却在各种巧合下，常最终没有走出教室，张的心愿最终没能满足。

常待人接物时常用的态度就是耐心与细致，他不想伤害任何一个人，也不想任何人受到伤害。这让常在同学之中人缘很好，也有很多人对常表达过欣赏。但如果揭下常的面具，心智尚不成熟的他其实是一个习惯于讨好他人、自卑内向的人。他对任何人的好都是出于习惯，他不希望失去任何一个已经成为朋友的人，也没有勇气与他人深入交流内心的想法。在高考的压力下，他进一步封锁自己的内心，不去思考与学习无关的内容，拒绝与他人深入交流，选择性地遗忘了很多事。

跨越大洋的交流

自从张去了美国之后，两人已经 2 年多没有联系了。收到张的信息，常十分惊讶，却还是十分友好地与张聊了起来。2 年过去，常和张都已经考上了心怡的大学，常大二，张大一。张向常打听他的恋爱情况，这让常十分意外。向来自卑的常从未有勇气想过与某位异性发展关系，母胎 solo 了近 19 年。常如实回答了当前的情况，这让张愈发积极，不断用信息轰炸常，让常不胜其烦。就这样，常接通了张的微信电话。

在电话里，两人从校园文化、国家政策聊到高中同学们的去向，并且对一些新出现的高中同学情侣深入交换意见看法。常高度肯定张前往美国之后做出的积极改变，称其学习能力有了极大提高。张同样肯定了常的学习成果，并对此表达了敬佩与赞扬。在天南海北聊了一个多小时后，常委婉地表达了希望休息的意思，并准备结束通话，此时，张突然向常表达了心意。常被这个突如其来的表白吓坏了，他从来没有认真思考过与异性交往，也没有勇气接受来自异性的爱意，一个太平洋的距离和 15 小时的时差更让常压力山大。短暂思考过后，常选择拒绝。

即便是明确被拒绝，张也没有放弃，而是不依不饶地尝试说服常答应。而常则坚持表示拒绝。张的不依不饶让常感到无可奈何，又不忍心直接挂断电话，怕这样会伤害到张。常几次沉默，几次叹气，张渐渐开始着急了，带着一丝哭腔要常不要叹气。下定决心后，常用一种非常决绝的语气再次表达了拒绝。这一次，沉默很久。张同意两人继续做朋友，通话结束。

复盘与反思

在收到张的消息的时候，常就应该注意到异常。即使是按照常自己的习惯，他几乎不会只是为了闲聊去打扰其他人，主动找到别人往往是为了一些十分重要的事情。常没能从张的言行中发现异常，没有做好相应准备。

常自小就是一个自卑的人，他从来都不想伤害任何人，为此，他甚至不惜一直与他人保持距离，因为他相信保持距离能减少人与人的羁绊，进而减少伤害。可事实并非总是如此，无论如何，常都十分肯定他伤害到张了。只要常还选择拒绝，伤害就几乎不可避免。

伤害无法避免，但常依然选择拒绝，他没有准备好接受爱意，也没有信心、没有能力去维系关系。处理身边的人际关系尚且吃力，更不要提横跨 15 个小时的异地关系。常做出这个决定，无非两害相权取其轻，他可以想象他需要做出的努力与牺牲，他认为这个关系是错误的。与其为了避免短期的伤害而在此后的时间里反复折磨，最后分手，不如从一开始就断了这个念头。当然，未经尝试，常也不知道他们最后会不会分手，但正是他想到了这些，他便没了向前迈步的勇气。

张已经明确表达了自己的心意，那么，常喜欢张吗？这个问题常无法回答。张的确是一个好女孩，常或许的确对三年前的她有好感。但是两年多过去，突然找来的她，还会是常喜欢的女孩吗？再加上前面的提到的一些顾虑，常无法鼓起勇气说自己喜欢张，即使常十分认可张的勇气，但自己还是决定做一个懦夫。

这是常的第一次，也是张的第一次，却以常的退缩而草草收尾。拒绝送上门的机会，或许这正是常失败的原因。

后记

大肠杆君依然没有从这次事件中完全走出来，愧疚感一直压在他的心上。他决定把这些写下来，说出来，在这个世界上留下一些记录。大肠杆君的失败或许并不会因此改变，而他的这些意识流的记录，止增笑耳。

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这类事情遇到好几次了😂😂 所以还是得线下多接触，一般莫名其妙就在一起了

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一线城市主动追的女生多点

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窝是颜控，看看对方再说

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无事献殷勤，非奸即盗。
\n这句话对于我这种普男来说极其正确 $\":tieba_hehe:\"$

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年月擦身过，暂且问，会更好吗？

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靠在身上也太超标了，要是我的话一秒就投降了 🐀

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-15 13:40:02.313974","updatedAt":"2025-06-15 13:41:01.496425","replyToPostNumber":12,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":22,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":30,"username":"一只玉米人","name":"玉米🌽","avatarUrl":"/uploads/blob/14/96/14961aeaa46ccbb75a61eec0c27b26e74fb5d1c00ccdcbbe898ca9ea37087dd6.svg","admin":false,"moderator":true,"signatureRaw":"*年月擦身过，暂且问，会更好吗？*","signatureCooked":"

年月擦身过，暂且问，会更好吗？

\n"}},{"id":56711,"postNumber":16,"raw":"![image|690x406](/uploads/image/c3/b7/c3b79bd968ad0511fde0d611f6c8a13326f786e24360f7d2978cf4d2a7114d23.avif)\n\n男的是这样的 :clown:","cooked":"

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男的是这样的 🤡

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年月擦身过，暂且问，会更好吗？

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又幻想了，幻想有人会主动追你 $\":tieba_laugh:\"$
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☝️ 🤓

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-15 13:41:06.47388","updatedAt":"2025-06-15 13:41:06.47388","replyToPostNumber":14,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":23,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"mingyao","count":1,"users":[{"id":30,"username":"一只玉米人","name":"玉米🌽"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":30,"username":"一只玉米人","name":"玉米🌽"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":1590,"username":"Revan","name":" ","avatarUrl":null,"admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":56714,"postNumber":18,"raw":"不是超标，一般来说见面一两次就会这样。\n观念传统/开放只是程度不同。\n你可能被左派的各种谎言和理论洗脑过于严重了，真实世界和你颅内的想法是完全不同的。","cooked":"

不是超标，一般来说见面一两次就会这样。
\n观念传统/开放只是程度不同。
\n你可能被左派的各种谎言和理论洗脑过于严重了，真实世界和你颅内的想法是完全不同的。

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-15 13:57:33.995718","updatedAt":"2025-06-15 13:57:33.995718","replyToPostNumber":15,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":73,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":56720,"postNumber":19,"raw":"[quote=\"shared_user, post:6, topic:14743, full:true, username:anonymous_coward\"]\n又幻想了，幻想有人会主动追你 :tieba_laugh:\n[/quote]\n\n可惜大多数人替代这种美梦幻想的是另一种悲观的幻想\n\n追求真实不是一件容易的事情，但有很高的价值","cooked":"

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又幻想了，幻想有人会主动追你 $\":tieba_laugh:\"$
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可惜大多数人替代这种美梦幻想的是另一种悲观的幻想

追求真实不是一件容易的事情，但有很高的价值

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你的左派指什么？

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-15 14:19:00.480696","updatedAt":"2025-06-15 14:19:00.480696","replyToPostNumber":18,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":8,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":56724,"postNumber":21,"raw":"目前中美高校里面最被接受的关于“人”的主流观念，然而错得离谱","cooked":"

目前中美高校里面最被接受的关于“人”的主流观念，然而错得离谱

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-15 14:20:48.382134","updatedAt":"2025-06-15 14:20:48.382134","replyToPostNumber":20,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":30,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":56727,"postNumber":22,"raw":"[quote=\"shared_user, post:21, topic:14743, username:anonymous_coward\"]\n目前中美高校里面最被接受的关于“人”的主流观念，\n[/quote]\n所以是什么","cooked":"

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目前中美高校里面最被接受的关于“人”的主流观念，
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所以是什么

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若只看两性关系，最流行的是性别虚无主义，即尽可能否认两性之间的种种差异

在国内高校，很多学生并不完全赞同这一点，毕竟体测标准是不同的，仍然承认体力上有差异。但大多数人承认认知没有差异，不同学科性别分布不均是社会偏见/歧视等等造成的。

以下是我的看法

在学科学习上，我也承认男女上限都是无限高，但认知是有差别的。不仅男女认知有差别，同性别不同人的认知都有极大的差别，这种差别不是能力的高低，而是种种特性和模式，而且由基因决定，后天很难更改。

由于大多数人（和过去的我）混淆了认知上限和认知模式，根本没有意识到自己和他人的认知模式衍生的行为模式巨大差异，后来做了很多的反思和训练才明白不同人的倾向有极大的差异。具体在实践上，现在可以有意识地和别人相处（真正的看到对方），做到见面一两次就和感兴趣的异性（对方在很多方面比我优秀）相处的非常融洽，对方也会很主动靠近自己，牵手和其他亲密的行为。

很多人说“尊重”实际上只是抽象的鹦鹉学舌，而根本没有能力看到对方需要的是什么，最后归结于金钱物质相貌等等表面的东西，说女生拜金之类的。但我接触的大多数女生并不拜金，大多数实际上也搞不清楚自己想要什么，但我在接触之后可以看到。

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理工男只知道搞技术，去销售岗历练几年就都懂了

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最流行的是性别虚无主义
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但我接触的大多数女生并不拜金，大多数实际上也搞不清楚自己想要什么，但我在接触之后可以看到。
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怎么看

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认知模式
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什么是认知，什么是认知模式，认知模式可以比较优劣吗，存在最优认知模式吗，你掌握了吗

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所有问题的回答都是：活在现实世界里，通过实践去获得正确的认识，在缺少真实经验的情况下专注于语言的分析和辩论是没太多意义的。

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认知模式可以比较优劣吗
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这种差别不是能力的高低
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当然，基础的阅读理解能力还是要有的。在此语境下“优劣”和“高低”不外乎指某种序关系，用词并无差别太大值得钻牛角尖的地方。

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朱元璋应该挺懂的，毕竟从乞丐到皇帝，各种各样的人都熟悉，大明律写的很稳。这种东西还是很看实际经验。

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美女帅哥能看上我？

我第一反应一定是这是杀猪盘

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我和我对象从小到大遭受过同性和异性的骚扰都不在少数。但实际上我们财富外貌都算不上突出，唯一的共性是小时候某些类似的经历，让我们意识到很多宣传的东西是彻底虚假的。

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小时候共性的经历？细说

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过于黑暗，而且黑暗的是我们😁

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啊？看不懂啊

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人脑有“爬行动物脑”、“古哺乳动物脑”和“新哺乳动物脑”三层。
\n对于小孩子而言第三层发育不甚完全，前两层最接近动物本能，小学生之间的恶意比大学生之间赤裸裸多了。我们差不多都是小时候就在和同学相处的过程中学会了同时驯服自己和他人的野性，她更夸张一点，有大量的同性和异性的崇拜。但由于都是小孩子，理性有限，我们也做过很多蠢事。

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宝宝丑，所以宝宝不想这些

哭了

唉，想到白月光了 🫠 但她是颜控😭

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宝宝丑
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你就算长得吓人也能找到很漂亮的女生。
\n女权都承认现在是男权社会，如果你还认为是女挑男而不是男挑女，该好好反思一下自己脑子里哪一块被殖民了

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wtf

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互联网上的男女对立，都是两方弱者的假想敌。
\n各自长篇大论的理论和吵架，只是为了描绘自己的愿望，“我认为这个世界应该是什么样的”
\n那么真实的世界是什么样的呢？

如果我们看到的世界完全不一样，很可能你在门前就被骗走了。
\n我没有见过不矜持的女人，也没有见过不撒谎的女人。

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打错了，没有见过矜持的女人

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说句实话，曾经愿意追我的人都被我否认了，我感觉说的简单做起来并不容易，但是我还是觉得能有人喜欢是一件很好的事

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但她不一样啊，她是挑的那个（

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跑个题：我高中的时候主动追的对方，结果最后我主动提的分手，结束后我还反思了很久单纯冲着对方颜值谈恋爱是不是我太肤浅了，我就到现在也没谈恋爱的想法了。高中的经历让我感觉谈恋爱没多少意思。纯纯个人感受，可能是我对上一段恋爱处理的不够好。

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所谓女性，就是一切边缘和弱势群体的集合。以前是女性等着男人来追，现在是弱势男性和弱势女性等着人来追，又因为思维惯性所以强势女性也等着人来追。

所以现实是强势男性挑对象，剩下的人不结婚

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我的男性朋友中有对象的人数就像我的女性朋友人数一样少，我的女性朋友中有对象的人数就像我的女性朋友人数一样多。

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