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没有意识到需要
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害怕以后分开
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😠你问这个有什么目的

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我这种一学期和女生说过最多的话就是“同学，让一让我要过去”的人真的能找到对象吗

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孩子们梦里啥都有
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我们今～～生注定是沧桑～

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为什么本科不考清北，是因为不想吗 😠

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阶级壁垒

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\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tアイラちゃん，post:8, topic:14662, username:sumire:\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

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没有物质基础支撑爱情
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此乃时代大势所趋

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对的，主要也是不太想靠父母来给予物质基础，如果真要谈也应该靠自己给对方一个比较体面的和舒服的生活，但是现在 0 收入 🥺

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数据来自多个渠道拼接
某些年份数据缺失，进行了简单的插值
某些年份统计口径不同

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能够清楚地认识到自己的人格缺陷，认为谈恋爱对对方是不负责任的。即便自己渴望获得心灵相通的伴侣，也主动地去避免产生这样的机会。

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\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tアイラちゃん，post:8, topic:14662, username:sumire:\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

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没有物质基础支撑爱情
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那我觉得主要的问题在于没有理论基础支撑爱情。
\n意思是我无法理解为什么要存在爱情。

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你为什么不找有人格缺陷的伴侣

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本账户已完成使命

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问题大抵有二：

有人格缺陷的人，为了生存，通常会构建虚伪的外表，外界难以辨别
即便有幸能够互相了解，也无法预测会相互悦纳还是相互折磨

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还有高人 🤣

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We typical call this a Toxic Couple,that is,a couple locked in mutual torment

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 07:56:15.630229","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 07:56:15.630229","replyToPostNumber":14,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":13,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54205,"postNumber":19,"raw":"The notion that individuals with certain “personality flaws” should simply pair off with others possessing complementary defects—as if spouse-finding were a matter of mechanically matching convex and concave structures—is both baffling and ridiculous .Such thinking reduces human relationships to the logic of a jigsaw puzzle, presuming that each flaw can be counterbalanced by an opposite, thus producing some perfect, harmonious fit. Yet this view overlooks a fundamental truth: people do not merely *occlude* , they *react* . When two individuals with equally destructive tendencies come together, the outcome is rarely complementary. More often, their flaws collide and compound, setting off a spiral of mutual torment and recrimination. The ideal of perfect mechanical pairing collapses, replaced by the all-too-human reality of emotional escalation and dysfunction—a scenario that, far from resolving individual wounds, magnifies them into some of the most painful entanglements humanity can produce.","cooked":"

The notion that individuals with certain “personality flaws” should simply pair off with others possessing complementary defects—as if spouse-finding were a matter of mechanically matching convex and concave structures—is both baffling and ridiculous .Such thinking reduces human relationships to the logic of a jigsaw puzzle, presuming that each flaw can be counterbalanced by an opposite, thus producing some perfect, harmonious fit. Yet this view overlooks a fundamental truth: people do not merely occlude , they react . When two individuals with equally destructive tendencies come together, the outcome is rarely complementary. More often, their flaws collide and compound, setting off a spiral of mutual torment and recrimination. The ideal of perfect mechanical pairing collapses, replaced by the all-too-human reality of emotional escalation and dysfunction—a scenario that, far from resolving individual wounds, magnifies them into some of the most painful entanglements humanity can produce.

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实际上，有人格缺陷的人不适合和任何人谈恋爱。维持一段真实和高质量的感情是有门槛的，对个人修养和道德有着某种限度的要求。

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