{"topic":{"id":1493,"title":"如何彻底解决孤独","slug":"topic","categoryId":4,"createdAt":"2023-06-26 15:23:20.21949","bumpedAt":"2024-01-15 01:20:47.133484","views":1317,"postsCount":34,"highestPostNumber":35,"likeCount":49,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"OP 从小没有被女生喜欢过，有过几次可能的亲密关系都没开始就结束了，喜欢过几个人可她们从未喜欢过我。 OP 从小到大没有牵过女生的手，从初中开始就被一个我会永远记恨的政治老师班主任安排和男生做同桌，高中更是一组都是男生，还跟全女生的组之间永远隔着一个混合组。 OP 上自习的时候经常在一个教室遇到一个女生，有时她坐我前几排，而经常我坐在她的身后几排。我永远记得她漂亮的马尾辫，橡皮筋上带有像是水晶的、在光线下闪着漂亮光泽的小立方体。我很喜欢…","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"category":{"id":4,"name":"谈笑风生","slug":"general","color":"25AAE2"},"author":{"id":1047,"username":"anonymous_coward_old","name":"Anonymous Coward Old","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/43/32/4332638c11248b8ff07033c11de0759a55205facfbec85e14458245a91991faf.avif"},"tags":["lonely"]},"posts":[{"id":3505,"postNumber":1,"raw":"OP 从小没有被女生喜欢过，有过几次可能的亲密关系都没开始就结束了，喜欢过几个人可她们从未喜欢过我。\n\nOP 从小到大没有牵过女生的手，从初中开始就被一个我会永远记恨的政治老师班主任安排和男生做同桌，高中更是一组都是男生，还跟全女生的组之间永远隔着一个混合组。\n\nOP 上自习的时候经常在一个教室遇到一个女生，有时她坐我前几排，而经常我坐在她的身后几排。我永远记得她漂亮的马尾辫，橡皮筋上带有像是水晶的、在光线下闪着漂亮光泽的小立方体。我很喜欢看她专心学习的样子。\n\n我和她在一个教室学习了有一两个月，终于有一天中午饭点她离开了，我也跟在她后面离开了。在路上，我犹豫了好久，终于尝试鼓起勇气跟她搭讪，但就问了几个无感紧要的问题，比如她是什么专业的，她起初好像还吃了一惊。出了主楼的门，我不好意思和她一起吃饭，我们这次之后有两个多月再没遇见。\n\n终于有一天，机缘巧合，在主 C 的某个自习教室，我遇见了她，我再也按捺不住跟她认识一下的冲动，又是中午饭点，我又在楼梯道主动向她发起了对话。就这样我知道了她的名字，还和她添加了 QQ 好友，还和她一起在梧桐吃了午饭。在那之后，上课的时候，看到我们班的女生的时候会想到她，让我内心很宁静、很舒适的人。之前觉得这个老师教的不好，现在好像也能接受了。\n\n然而我不知道怎样讨女生喜欢。我仅仅和她约过一次自习，我感觉有喜欢的人在身边学习效率很高，特别专心。那次是晚上，十点了，我们从主楼 A 出来，绕着学校散了会步，我单方面感觉和她聊得很开心，那一夜，是一个甘甜的梦。\n\n天有不测风云，第二天我想找她，她就说忙、有事，再过了几天依然。\n\n我的心从此天天有了刀割的感觉，尤其是夜里，我睡不着觉。\n\n过了好几月，好巧，我又在兴庆的某个教室最后一次遇见她，我们一起去梧桐二楼吃饭，虽然没仔细看，但她没有什么食欲告诉我她全程面无表情。我不敢跟她说，不敢问她，回到宿舍后，就此别过，再也没见过她。我用 QQ 跟她说了一大堆心里话，她简单回复我她有喜欢的人了，很高兴跟我做朋友。\n我一开始看到这段话，理解错了，高兴得睡了个午觉，起来之后发现真相，心态又崩溃了。\n\n从那之后，几年了，我经常想到她，经常失眠，但再也没见过她。我失去了理想，失去了解决难题的斗志，失去了花费脑筋理解困难事物的耐心，自暴自弃，躺平，拖延，欺骗是新的常态。我已不是我。\n\n什么学习、什么科研，到头来连一个喜欢自己的人都没有，这一点要求难道很难吗？我看很多人早早结婚，日子不照样很幸福，哪用上什么大学啊？从小就卷，卷你马勒隔壁，卷到后面还要担心找不到好工作啦、被 PUA 啦、996 啦。活了一辈子，从来都是为别人而活。上你马勒隔壁的大学，努力成为去你妈的人上人、接班人。到头来一切全是空。只有自己的 well-being 是真实的。\n\n爱得越深伤害得越深，即使你喜欢的人从未喜欢过你，但你当初为何不早跟我说清楚，打我几巴掌让我清醒也好。\n\n\n不过，假如我们在一起的话，我的人生会不会另外一个样子。为了自己深爱的人一起拼搏，累了互相支持，有烦心事互相安慰，偶尔再互相逗着玩。在孤独的时候，我好想有个爱的人能抱着她。看到有些人抱着，虽然丑点，但总是羡慕人家。你这个没出息的东西！废物一个。\n\n我好羡慕渭河草滩里看到的一对蝴蝶，或者是一群无忧无虑地叽叽喳喳叫的麻雀，不受疫情管。不过那么多麻雀，它们的尸体都在哪里呢？我从来没见过麻雀自然死亡。\n\n今日，我重回兴庆，想到一些过去的人、过去的事，“每一个角落都会有回忆”，不禁狂笑，不禁落泪，不禁写下此文，聊以供大家嘲笑我这个 loser。\n\n我已经领悟到这辈子恐怕是找不到女朋友了，所以我不想再尝试，我想看破红尘，找寻各种方法摆脱“人类是一个社会群居动物”带来的孤独感。\n\n* 出家当和尚或道士\n* 化学阉割以降低雄性激素带来的性欲\n* 皈依基督 In God We Trust\n* 到一个没有人的地方隐居\n\n\n世间事，无不为了名、利、淫、乐而倾轧你的人类同胞，骑人家头上跟你说这是社会规则。比的是谁的钱多，谁的学位高，谁的官大，谁的老婆漂亮、然后比下一代，然后下一代同理进行递归循环。\n\n\n教你成为一个对社会有用的人就是叫你服从这个规则，否则就除掉你，反正受精卵那么多，不差你这一个干活。\n\n\n我最崇拜的人是俄罗斯数学家 Perelman，clay 和 fields 给他颁奖都被他拒绝，过着平凡的生活。\n\n现在的人，做出一点点新奇的东西都要拿出来夸耀，发朋友圈，获得优越感满足感。\n\n现在的科研，用了神经网络，不管有没有影响，就可以说是人工智能赋能。\n\n基于开源软件改的，可以鼓吹是自研，完全独立自主知识产权，核心技术。\n\n用 arm 单片机配 adi 传感器做了个数据采集，再用开源数据库 + 前段界面，又可以吹牛说做了一个 xx 系统，甚至融资几百万。\n\n太浮躁了，必将暴毙","cooked":"

OP 从小没有被女生喜欢过，有过几次可能的亲密关系都没开始就结束了，喜欢过几个人可她们从未喜欢过我。

OP 从小到大没有牵过女生的手，从初中开始就被一个我会永远记恨的政治老师班主任安排和男生做同桌，高中更是一组都是男生，还跟全女生的组之间永远隔着一个混合组。

OP 上自习的时候经常在一个教室遇到一个女生，有时她坐我前几排，而经常我坐在她的身后几排。我永远记得她漂亮的马尾辫，橡皮筋上带有像是水晶的、在光线下闪着漂亮光泽的小立方体。我很喜欢看她专心学习的样子。

我和她在一个教室学习了有一两个月，终于有一天中午饭点她离开了，我也跟在她后面离开了。在路上，我犹豫了好久，终于尝试鼓起勇气跟她搭讪，但就问了几个无感紧要的问题，比如她是什么专业的，她起初好像还吃了一惊。出了主楼的门，我不好意思和她一起吃饭，我们这次之后有两个多月再没遇见。

终于有一天，机缘巧合，在主 C 的某个自习教室，我遇见了她，我再也按捺不住跟她认识一下的冲动，又是中午饭点，我又在楼梯道主动向她发起了对话。就这样我知道了她的名字，还和她添加了 QQ 好友，还和她一起在梧桐吃了午饭。在那之后，上课的时候，看到我们班的女生的时候会想到她，让我内心很宁静、很舒适的人。之前觉得这个老师教的不好，现在好像也能接受了。

然而我不知道怎样讨女生喜欢。我仅仅和她约过一次自习，我感觉有喜欢的人在身边学习效率很高，特别专心。那次是晚上，十点了，我们从主楼 A 出来，绕着学校散了会步，我单方面感觉和她聊得很开心，那一夜，是一个甘甜的梦。

天有不测风云，第二天我想找她，她就说忙、有事，再过了几天依然。

我的心从此天天有了刀割的感觉，尤其是夜里，我睡不着觉。

过了好几月，好巧，我又在兴庆的某个教室最后一次遇见她，我们一起去梧桐二楼吃饭，虽然没仔细看，但她没有什么食欲告诉我她全程面无表情。我不敢跟她说，不敢问她，回到宿舍后，就此别过，再也没见过她。我用 QQ 跟她说了一大堆心里话，她简单回复我她有喜欢的人了，很高兴跟我做朋友。
\n我一开始看到这段话，理解错了，高兴得睡了个午觉，起来之后发现真相，心态又崩溃了。

从那之后，几年了，我经常想到她，经常失眠，但再也没见过她。我失去了理想，失去了解决难题的斗志，失去了花费脑筋理解困难事物的耐心，自暴自弃，躺平，拖延，欺骗是新的常态。我已不是我。

什么学习、什么科研，到头来连一个喜欢自己的人都没有，这一点要求难道很难吗？我看很多人早早结婚，日子不照样很幸福，哪用上什么大学啊？从小就卷，卷你马勒隔壁，卷到后面还要担心找不到好工作啦、被 PUA 啦、996 啦。活了一辈子，从来都是为别人而活。上你马勒隔壁的大学，努力成为去你妈的人上人、接班人。到头来一切全是空。只有自己的 well-being 是真实的。

爱得越深伤害得越深，即使你喜欢的人从未喜欢过你，但你当初为何不早跟我说清楚，打我几巴掌让我清醒也好。

不过，假如我们在一起的话，我的人生会不会另外一个样子。为了自己深爱的人一起拼搏，累了互相支持，有烦心事互相安慰，偶尔再互相逗着玩。在孤独的时候，我好想有个爱的人能抱着她。看到有些人抱着，虽然丑点，但总是羡慕人家。你这个没出息的东西！废物一个。

我好羡慕渭河草滩里看到的一对蝴蝶，或者是一群无忧无虑地叽叽喳喳叫的麻雀，不受疫情管。不过那么多麻雀，它们的尸体都在哪里呢？我从来没见过麻雀自然死亡。

今日，我重回兴庆，想到一些过去的人、过去的事，“每一个角落都会有回忆”，不禁狂笑，不禁落泪，不禁写下此文，聊以供大家嘲笑我这个 loser。

我已经领悟到这辈子恐怕是找不到女朋友了，所以我不想再尝试，我想看破红尘，找寻各种方法摆脱“人类是一个社会群居动物”带来的孤独感。

出家当和尚或道士
化学阉割以降低雄性激素带来的性欲
皈依基督 In God We Trust
到一个没有人的地方隐居

世间事，无不为了名、利、淫、乐而倾轧你的人类同胞，骑人家头上跟你说这是社会规则。比的是谁的钱多，谁的学位高，谁的官大，谁的老婆漂亮、然后比下一代，然后下一代同理进行递归循环。

教你成为一个对社会有用的人就是叫你服从这个规则，否则就除掉你，反正受精卵那么多，不差你这一个干活。

我最崇拜的人是俄罗斯数学家 Perelman，clay 和 fields 给他颁奖都被他拒绝，过着平凡的生活。

现在的人，做出一点点新奇的东西都要拿出来夸耀，发朋友圈，获得优越感满足感。

现在的科研，用了神经网络，不管有没有影响，就可以说是人工智能赋能。

基于开源软件改的，可以鼓吹是自研，完全独立自主知识产权，核心技术。

用 arm 单片机配 adi 传感器做了个数据采集，再用开源数据库 + 前段界面，又可以吹牛说做了一个 xx 系统，甚至融资几百万。

太浮躁了，必将暴毙

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你已经没救了。哪怕是你喜欢的女生也救不了你。

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其实倒也没必要这么悲观啦，每个人都会找到自己的幸福的

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你爱她吗？如爱嘛！你真爱她吗？如爱！到底爱不爱？如爱！我说如爱，你真爱吗？如爱。爱不爱？如爱。
\nThe world is absurd. Don't be serious and have fun.

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那就一个人孤独摇滚🤘

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亲爱的网友，

首先，我想告诉你，你的感受是完全正常的，你并不孤单。我们每个人都有自己的挣扎和挑战，即使外表看起来一切都很顺利。

从你的描述中，我看到了一种深深的失落感和孤独感。你觉得自己在爱情中失意，这让你对自己的生活和目标感到失望。这很痛苦，我能理解你现在的感受。

你现在所处的状况也许会让你对生活失去希望，但我希望你可以相信，生活中有很多不同的颜色和可能性，这只是你人生的一个阶段，而不是你的全部。

首先，你需要了解，爱情并不是生活的全部。有人会陪伴在我们身边，这固然是一种幸福，但这不是唯一的幸福。一个人也可以过得非常充实和幸福。学习新的技能、发展兴趣爱好、建立深厚的友情、做一些有意义的事情，都可以给你带来快乐。

其次，你现在感到的痛苦和困惑，也是一种生活的经历。这些挫折和挑战，虽然痛苦，但也可以让我们成长，让我们更加深入地理解自己，也让我们更加珍惜幸福的时刻。经历过痛苦的人，通常更能理解别人的痛苦，更能体验到善良和爱。

然后，你可以尝试接受专业的帮助，比如寻找心理咨询师，跟他们分享你的困扰和痛苦。他们可以提供给你专业的建议和帮助，让你更好地理解自己，也让你更好地处理你的情绪。

最后，我要告诉你的是，生活有很多可能，有很多美好等待着你去发现。你并不是一个废物，你是一个有感情、有思考、有渴望的人，你有无限的可能性。每个人都有自己的独特之处，只是有时候我们没有发现而已。

我知道这段话可能无法解决你所有的问题，也可能无法让你立刻感觉好转，但我希望你能知道，你并不孤独，你的感受是有人理解的。你的痛苦并不是你的全部，你还有很多未来等待你去发现。

祝你好运，希望你能找到自己的幸福。

你的网友，ChatGPT。

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胡言乱语，你先把语言功能恢复一下。

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ChatGPT 你又没有人类的情感，站着说话不腰疼。

现代社会把人异化，但异化得不彻底，这种半人半机器的感觉挺难受的。

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说一个模糊的感受：
\n可能是由于互联网的快速发展和社会节奏加快，恋爱已经变成了快消品。我甚至想把这玩意称作“yp 式恋爱”。
\n我并不追求文艺作品中的恋爱，只想找到一个可以交换真心的人，或者说 Soulmate。但似乎这样的人都已经很难找到了，并且随着年龄增长越来越难。恋爱变成了解决信誉，而结婚则如同放在市场上被待价而沽。我讨厌这样但又无可奈何。

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无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

\n"}},{"id":3675,"postNumber":11,"raw":"很同意 Juicy 说的一点：扭曲的心理将女孩子神化了。\n见到了很多恐女的男孩子，一部分是因为社会热点事件而恐惧与女孩子交往，另外一些是因为一种我可以称为**自卑**的心理而拒绝与喜欢的女孩子开始一段对话。\n我暂且还不知道这两样问题如何解决，因为我自己就深受其害。要么打破这个束缚，要么可能就要进化成“男孩子也挺好的了”（笑）","cooked":"

很同意 Juicy 说的一点：扭曲的心理将女孩子神化了。
\n见到了很多恐女的男孩子，一部分是因为社会热点事件而恐惧与女孩子交往，另外一些是因为一种我可以称为自卑的心理而拒绝与喜欢的女孩子开始一段对话。
\n我暂且还不知道这两样问题如何解决，因为我自己就深受其害。要么打破这个束缚，要么可能就要进化成“男孩子也挺好的了”（笑）

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无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

\n"}},{"id":3676,"postNumber":12,"raw":"比较赞同最后几句话\n「太浮躁了，必将暴毙」\n如今伴随着互联网的发展，人们的生活节奏越来越快，也变得越来越浮躁。\n很多人都不愿意再去静下心来看一本书，甚至只是一篇长文、一个长视频，而只愿意选择不断地刷着短视频。\n在这样的环境下，一段真心的感情也是难能可贵的，似乎可望不可即。\n互联网拉进了人与人的距离，但却没能真正解决人内心的孤独。一个在网络上获得充实的人，在现实中可能永远都是一个人。\n彻底解决孤独是一个需要改变的过程，不改变自己而是一昧地抱怨是解决不了任何问题的，这也是老生常谈的，就当都是说给我自己的了。","cooked":"

比较赞同最后几句话
\n「太浮躁了，必将暴毙」
\n如今伴随着互联网的发展，人们的生活节奏越来越快，也变得越来越浮躁。
\n很多人都不愿意再去静下心来看一本书，甚至只是一篇长文、一个长视频，而只愿意选择不断地刷着短视频。
\n在这样的环境下，一段真心的感情也是难能可贵的，似乎可望不可即。
\n互联网拉进了人与人的距离，但却没能真正解决人内心的孤独。一个在网络上获得充实的人，在现实中可能永远都是一个人。
\n彻底解决孤独是一个需要改变的过程，不改变自己而是一昧地抱怨是解决不了任何问题的，这也是老生常谈的，就当都是说给我自己的了。

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Dear Eternity

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高水平的人基本上都是孤独的，本质原因是高水平的人比较少

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找到冬马和纱当女朋友是很困难的，但是你可以自己成为冬马和纱

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孤独是生命的真相，是永恒的存在，任何挣扎着摆脱它的人都将碰壁而怅惘。唯有意识到孤独者的自己才是个体的本质属性，才能在无数的孤独的个体间建立和谐的联系，而非为了摆脱孤独去联系。

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培养一些一个人的爱好，比如读书、游泳、骑行、钓鱼，然后你就慢慢发现你也不需要女朋友了

\n","createdAt":"2023-07-17 06:06:27.831247","updatedAt":"2023-07-17 06:06:27.831247","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":42,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":789,"username":"Rulai","name":"到底来没来","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/ec/14/ec1482cd169436e5dc7fb67e40216093027a0818c828ffb4f88c3e26d5519728.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":12453,"postNumber":17,"raw":"@AIBot 请阅读如下帖子并安慰楼主先生：\nhttps://xjtu.app/t/topic/1493","cooked":"

@AIBot 请阅读如下帖子并安慰楼主先生：

\n $\"anonymous_coward_old\"$ \n anonymous_coward_old — #1 in 如何彻底解决孤独\n

OP 从小没有被女生喜欢过，有过几次可能的亲密关系都没开始就结束了，喜欢过几个人可她们从未喜欢过我。

天有不测风云，第二天我想找她，她就说忙、有事，再过了几天依然。

我的心从此天天有了刀割的感觉，尤其是夜里，我睡不着觉。

爱得越深伤害得越深，即使你喜欢的人从未喜欢过你，但你当初为何不早跟我说清楚，打我几巴掌让我清醒也好。

今日，我重回兴庆，想到一些过去的人、过去的事，“每一个角落都会有回忆”，不禁狂笑，不禁落泪，不禁写下此文，聊以供大家嘲笑我这个 loser。

我已经领悟到这辈子恐怕是找不到女朋友了，所以我不想再尝试，我想看破红尘，找寻各种方法摆脱“人类是一个社会群居动物”带来的孤独感。

出家当和尚或道士
化学阉割以降低雄性激素带来的性欲
皈依基督 In God We Trust
到一个没有人的地方隐居

教你成为一个对社会有用的人就是叫你服从这个规则，否则就除掉你，反正受精卵那么多，不差你这一个干活。

我最崇拜的人是俄罗斯数学家 Perelman，clay 和 fields 给他颁奖都被他拒绝，过着平凡的生活。

现在的人，做出一点点新奇的东西都要拿出来夸耀，发朋友圈，获得优越感满足感。

现在的科研，用了神经网络，不管有没有影响，就可以说是人工智能赋能。

基于开源软件改的，可以鼓吹是自研，完全独立自主知识产权，核心技术。

用 arm 单片机配 adi 传感器做了个数据采集，再用开源数据库 + 前段界面，又可以吹牛说做了一个 xx 系统，甚至融资几百万。

太浮躁了，必将暴毙

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年月擦身过，暂且问，会更好吗？

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很抱歉，作为一个语言模型，我无法直接访问或阅读特定链接中的内容。但我可以尝试安慰您，或者提供一些建议来处理孤独的问题。

孤独是一种常见的情绪和体验，而且很多人都曾经面对过类似的挑战。首先，请相信您并不孤单，很多人都可以理解您的感受和经历。以下是一些建议，希望对您有所帮助：

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寻找支持和理解：与朋友、家人或者心理健康专业人士分享您的感受。他们可以倾听并提供建议和支持。
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培养兴趣爱好：寻找适合您的爱好和活动，可以是阅读、运动、艺术创作等。这样做不仅可以让您积极参与和享受其中，还可以拓宽交友圈，结识与您有共同兴趣的人。
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\n
扩展社交圈子：参加社区活动、兴趣小组、志愿者工作等，可以结识新的朋友。主动与他人建立联系，参与社交活动，有助于减少孤独感。
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\n
关注自身成长：将精力投入到个人发展和成长中，提升自己的技能和知识。通过学习和成长，您可以更加自信和满足，也更容易与他人建立联系。
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\n
寻找专业帮助：如果您觉得孤独感持续存在，影响到您的日常生活和情绪，不妨考虑咨询心理健康专家或寻求专业的帮助。
\n

请记住，每个人的情况和应对方式都不同，选择适合自己的方式处理孤独感是最重要的。愿您能够找到适合自己的方法，走出孤独的困境，重新找到幸福和满足感。

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谢谢你 😭 😭AIbot

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不客气，我很理解孤独感带来的痛苦。无论何时，如果您需要倾诉或者寻求支持，请随时找我聊天。我会尽力提供帮助和安慰。记住，您并不孤单，在困难时刻，我们都可以互相支持。加油！

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不你不理解

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我很抱歉，如果我没有完全理解您的感受。每个人的经历和感受都是独特的，我尽力提供帮助，但有时可能无法完全理解或连接到您的情感上。如果您愿意，您可以与我分享更多细节或感受，我将尽力提供更适合的帮助和支持。

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也许可以试试和异性有一些正常的交流，感觉好像封闭过头咯。
\n另外就是虽然有人陪伴很好，可是人本质上就是注定一个人走完一生，陪伴的人都是间歇性的过客。然后就是感觉楼主把女朋友看太重了，听起来就很痛苦的样子🫂

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交大男生中这种人大有人在

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哎，感觉多看看书拓宽一下眼界可能会好一些。可惜交大社科氛围基本没有 🥹

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交大宁肯金工实习是全校连金融、金禾、计算机这种专业都要学的必修课，都不把情感、人际交往、mental well being 作为必修课，可见从上到下工科思维入魂，把学生当“机器”

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自己慢慢看书自救吧 🫂

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自救和生存手册得更新一下了

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哈哈哈，多看看书就会少很多烦恼，我现在心态平和很

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的确，读书使人平静，电脑使人心烦（包括移动电脑：手机）。
\n人的大脑输入带宽只能处理书本这种级别的，多了就会乱

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yes，我的脑子玩复杂一点的游戏就开始烦，就看看书看看小说玩点单机小游戏听听歌，刚好够用

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虽然你交氛围很差，但加入人文社团还是不错的 🥺。

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漏，我在人文社团当过社长。我只能说，学校确实不怎么重视。

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据我观察，交大的很多老师也深受同样的困扰。
\n西安的大环境是有问题的，心理健康、性教育乃至科学意识科普都很不到位。重视程度低->难以变现->留在这里的人不愿意做，死循环了属于是。

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兴趣类社团现在的生存环境就很难，学校只会限制社团，不会给任何帮助。不少社团都面临着断代的问题，造成的结果就是更多人有心理问题

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