{"topic":{"id":14662,"title":"你为什么不谈恋爱？","slug":"topic","categoryId":4,"createdAt":"2025-05-31 22:31:14.094981","bumpedAt":"2025-06-08 05:20:20.173688","views":562,"postsCount":32,"highestPostNumber":40,"likeCount":50,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"没有意识到需要意识到不需要想找但不敢找想找但找不到忙于学习生活害怕以后分开其他可在评论区补充","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"category":{"id":4,"name":"谈笑风生","slug":"general","color":"25AAE2"},"author":{"id":650,"username":"AdvisorUploadBot1","name":"AdvisorUploadBot1","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/02/36/0236028412afac37de85af1c94081c73f9bb07e13e7b33985f171687b0e7508f.avif"},"tags":[]},"posts":[{"id":53941,"postNumber":1,"raw":"[poll type=regular results=always public=false chartType=bar]\n* 没有意识到需要\n* 意识到不需要\n* 想找但不敢找\n* 想找但找不到\n* 忙于学习生活\n* 害怕以后分开\n* 其他可在评论区补充\n[/poll]","cooked":"

没有意识到需要
意识到不需要
想找但不敢找
想找但找不到
忙于学习生活
害怕以后分开
其他可在评论区补充

","createdAt":"2025-05-31 22:31:14.231253","updatedAt":"2025-05-31 22:31:58.994668","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":59,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[{"id":169,"name":"poll","type":"regular","status":"open","results":"always","visibility":"secret","min":null,"max":null,"step":null,"closeAt":null,"options":[{"id":856,"digest":"05d3966d2566632d6a7a743ec3021e21","html":"没有意识到需要","votesCount":3,"voters":[]},{"id":857,"digest":"f716737690b9fb5ef9be64fdcb6bae2f","html":"意识到不需要","votesCount":6,"voters":[]},{"id":858,"digest":"b6c07a9b5cc1fcb9786a63befaa3e9da","html":"想找但不敢找","votesCount":4,"voters":[]},{"id":859,"digest":"8a9d99101a215ade59c921f3b929a8b6","html":"想找但找不到","votesCount":13,"voters":[]},{"id":860,"digest":"6b3dd8b94e397e6cd5236240de539190","html":"忙于学习生活","votesCount":3,"voters":[]},{"id":861,"digest":"11a5fc821f3e76d1492c26cb1005d9c6","html":"害怕以后分开","votesCount":0,"voters":[]},{"id":862,"digest":"d112d93511defc4626dd55af1816a4ab","html":"其他可在评论区补充","votesCount":2,"voters":[]}],"userVotes":[],"totalVoters":31}],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":650,"username":"AdvisorUploadBot1","name":"AdvisorUploadBot1","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/02/36/0236028412afac37de85af1c94081c73f9bb07e13e7b33985f171687b0e7508f.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"本账户已完成使命","signatureCooked":"

本账户已完成使命

\n"}},{"id":53951,"postNumber":2,"raw":":angry:你问这个有什么目的","cooked":"

😠你问这个有什么目的

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 03:31:33.703204","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 03:31:33.703204","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":10,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"plus1","count":1,"users":[{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":200,"username":"Srotseiticar","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/b1/9c/b19c1e66543642c1f8875cee0af0cf23bc42ced9ab04c26a042f5da02566d26c.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":53957,"postNumber":3,"raw":"我这种一学期和女生说过最多的话就是“同学，让一让我要过去”的人真的能找到对象吗","cooked":"

我这种一学期和女生说过最多的话就是“同学，让一让我要过去”的人真的能找到对象吗

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 04:02:58.234556","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 04:02:58.234556","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":3,"wordCount":39,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"plus1","count":1,"users":[{"id":30,"username":"一只玉米人","name":"玉米🌽"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"🥺️","count":1,"users":[{"id":346,"username":"hoist","name":null}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"face_holding_back_tears_hugging_face","count":1,"users":[{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":3,"users":[{"id":30,"username":"一只玉米人","name":"玉米🌽"},{"id":346,"username":"hoist","name":null},{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":53958,"postNumber":4,"raw":"孩子们梦里啥都有\n你需要的只是一个好的枕头","cooked":"

孩子们梦里啥都有
\n你需要的只是一个好的枕头

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 04:03:56.877183","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 04:03:56.877183","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":2,"wordCount":20,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"😋️","count":1,"users":[{"id":5151,"username":"Soyo34325","name":"Soyo34325"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":2,"users":[{"id":5151,"username":"Soyo34325","name":"Soyo34325"},{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":53960,"postNumber":5,"raw":"我们今～～生注定是沧桑～","cooked":"

我们今～～生注定是沧桑～

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 04:46:21.283785","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 04:46:21.283785","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":11,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7137,"username":"emu_otori","name":"鳳笑夢","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/0b/13/0b133abcd3dfadb90fdbf7583cfdc31ec56db3dbd063fce95dbe0f09296b527a.avif","admin":false,"moderator":true,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":53967,"postNumber":6,"raw":"为什么本科不考清北，是因为不想吗 :angry:","cooked":"

为什么本科不考清北，是因为不想吗 😠

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 06:43:41.737963","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 06:43:41.737963","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":2,"wordCount":17,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"mingyao","count":2,"users":[{"id":200,"username":"Srotseiticar","name":null},{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":2,"users":[{"id":200,"username":"Srotseiticar","name":null},{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":53982,"postNumber":7,"raw":"阶级壁垒","cooked":"

阶级壁垒

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 07:42:13.712462","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 07:42:13.712462","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":4,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54007,"postNumber":8,"raw":"害怕自己给不了对方足够的情绪，情感和恋爱价值，自己的生活都一团乱麻也很难真正地谈一场恋爱，没有一个认真的态度对待恋爱还不如不要开始；找不到对象，以及没有物质基础支撑爱情 :smiling_face_with_tear:","cooked":"

害怕自己给不了对方足够的情绪，情感和恋爱价值，自己的生活都一团乱麻也很难真正地谈一场恋爱，没有一个认真的态度对待恋爱还不如不要开始；找不到对象，以及没有物质基础支撑爱情 🥲

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 10:38:51.923939","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 10:40:28.412437","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":2,"likeCount":3,"wordCount":85,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":3,"users":[{"id":2877,"username":"Zerick","name":null},{"id":7220,"username":"东川路第一mzk推","name":"anon30248587"},{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7550,"username":"sumire","name":"アイラちゃん","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/7a/48/7a483b9b45d50681361e6da6c04657d008e906eb104592b0e7b421c1e4e1a9ad.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54008,"postNumber":9,"raw":"[quote=\"アイラちゃん，post:8, topic:14662, username:sumire\"]\n没有物质基础支撑爱情\n[/quote]\n\n此乃**时代大势所趋**\n\n![image|690x298](/uploads/image/89/b6/89b61a7009d79078d59f169fced11637f8a3f41b491bc8e5f78d0978db528b70.avif)","cooked":"

\n\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tアイラちゃん，post:8, topic:14662, username:sumire:\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t

\n
没有物质基础支撑爱情
\n

\n\t\t\t\t

此乃时代大势所趋

$\"image\"$

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 10:40:18.611358","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 10:40:18.611358","replyToPostNumber":8,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":32,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":7550,"username":"sumire","name":"アイラちゃん"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54009,"postNumber":10,"raw":"对的，主要也是不太想靠父母来给予物质基础，如果真要谈也应该靠自己给对方一个比较体面的和舒服的生活，但是现在 0 收入 :pleading:","cooked":"

对的，主要也是不太想靠父母来给予物质基础，如果真要谈也应该靠自己给对方一个比较体面的和舒服的生活，但是现在 0 收入 🥺

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 10:41:51.584725","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 10:41:51.584725","replyToPostNumber":9,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":57,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7550,"username":"sumire","name":"アイラちゃん","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/7a/48/7a483b9b45d50681361e6da6c04657d008e906eb104592b0e7b421c1e4e1a9ad.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54010,"postNumber":11,"raw":"[us-marriages-divorces-1867-2023.csv|attachment](/uploads/blob/c5/b4/c5b49f1ef05430f72c8b43567e45c60ebd4088bc9b616254858720e87a3b3121.csv) (2.8 KB)\n\n- 数据来自多个渠道拼接\n- 某些年份数据缺失，进行了简单的插值\n- 某些年份统计口径不同","cooked":"

us-marriages-divorces-1867-2023.csv|attachment (2.8 KB)

数据来自多个渠道拼接
某些年份数据缺失，进行了简单的插值
某些年份统计口径不同

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 10:46:07.237938","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 10:46:07.237938","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":43,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54011,"postNumber":12,"raw":"能够清楚地认识到自己的人格缺陷，认为谈恋爱对对方是不负责任的。即便自己渴望获得心灵相通的伴侣，也主动地去避免产生这样的机会。","cooked":"

能够清楚地认识到自己的人格缺陷，认为谈恋爱对对方是不负责任的。即便自己渴望获得心灵相通的伴侣，也主动地去避免产生这样的机会。

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 10:57:20.517776","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 10:57:20.517776","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":2,"wordCount":62,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":2,"users":[{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"},{"id":7550,"username":"sumire","name":"アイラちゃん"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54112,"postNumber":13,"raw":"[quote=\"アイラちゃん，post:8, topic:14662, username:sumire\"]\n没有物质基础支撑爱情\n[/quote]\n\n那我觉得主要的问题在于没有理论基础支撑爱情。\n意思是我无法理解为什么要存在爱情。","cooked":"

\n\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tアイラちゃん，post:8, topic:14662, username:sumire:\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t

\n
没有物质基础支撑爱情
\n

\n\t\t\t\t

那我觉得主要的问题在于没有理论基础支撑爱情。
\n意思是我无法理解为什么要存在爱情。

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-01 23:42:11.1213","updatedAt":"2025-06-01 23:42:11.1213","replyToPostNumber":8,"replyCount":3,"likeCount":2,"wordCount":60,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❔️","count":1,"users":[{"id":4148,"username":"sad-dharma-vipralopa","name":"Echo est ubi sum"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":2,"users":[{"id":4148,"username":"sad-dharma-vipralopa","name":"Echo est ubi sum"},{"id":7550,"username":"sumire","name":"アイラちゃん"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/ee/4b/ee4bedb343782076342a731467b6dce60632d57d0ae06e97898e9b51bac354d3.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54122,"postNumber":14,"raw":"你为什么不找有人格缺陷的伴侣","cooked":"

你为什么不找有人格缺陷的伴侣

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 01:33:19.248161","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 01:33:19.248161","replyToPostNumber":12,"replyCount":3,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":14,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❔️","count":1,"users":[{"id":4148,"username":"sad-dharma-vipralopa","name":"Echo est ubi sum"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":4148,"username":"sad-dharma-vipralopa","name":"Echo est ubi sum"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":650,"username":"AdvisorUploadBot1","name":"AdvisorUploadBot1","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/02/36/0236028412afac37de85af1c94081c73f9bb07e13e7b33985f171687b0e7508f.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"本账户已完成使命","signatureCooked":"

本账户已完成使命

\n"}},{"id":54199,"postNumber":15,"raw":"问题大抵有二：\n1. 有人格缺陷的人，为了生存，通常会构建虚伪的外表，外界难以辨别\n3. 即便有幸能够互相了解，也无法预测会相互悦纳还是相互折磨","cooked":"

问题大抵有二：

有人格缺陷的人，为了生存，通常会构建虚伪的外表，外界难以辨别
即便有幸能够互相了解，也无法预测会相互悦纳还是相互折磨

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 07:44:00.658884","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 07:47:59.342084","replyToPostNumber":14,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":66,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":3,"publicVersion":3,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7245,"username":"anon42647320","name":null,"avatarUrl":null,"admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54202,"postNumber":16,"raw":"![image|295x500](/uploads/image/69/f8/69f887a247520e2ef3482a06a83bf3fcd3a73c6770af208596870a1c14b6c344.avif)","cooked":"

$\"image\"$

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 07:49:04.485112","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 07:49:04.485112","replyToPostNumber":13,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":2,"wordCount":1,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❔️","count":2,"users":[{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"},{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":2,"users":[{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"},{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54203,"postNumber":17,"raw":"还有高人 :rofl:","cooked":"

还有高人 🤣

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 07:51:42.198427","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 07:51:42.198427","replyToPostNumber":13,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":5,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54204,"postNumber":18,"raw":"We typical call this a Toxic Couple,that is,a couple locked in mutual torment","cooked":"

We typical call this a Toxic Couple,that is,a couple locked in mutual torment

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 07:56:15.630229","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 07:56:15.630229","replyToPostNumber":14,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":13,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54205,"postNumber":19,"raw":"The notion that individuals with certain “personality flaws” should simply pair off with others possessing complementary defects—as if spouse-finding were a matter of mechanically matching convex and concave structures—is both baffling and ridiculous .Such thinking reduces human relationships to the logic of a jigsaw puzzle, presuming that each flaw can be counterbalanced by an opposite, thus producing some perfect, harmonious fit. Yet this view overlooks a fundamental truth: people do not merely *occlude* , they *react* . When two individuals with equally destructive tendencies come together, the outcome is rarely complementary. More often, their flaws collide and compound, setting off a spiral of mutual torment and recrimination. The ideal of perfect mechanical pairing collapses, replaced by the all-too-human reality of emotional escalation and dysfunction—a scenario that, far from resolving individual wounds, magnifies them into some of the most painful entanglements humanity can produce.","cooked":"

The notion that individuals with certain “personality flaws” should simply pair off with others possessing complementary defects—as if spouse-finding were a matter of mechanically matching convex and concave structures—is both baffling and ridiculous .Such thinking reduces human relationships to the logic of a jigsaw puzzle, presuming that each flaw can be counterbalanced by an opposite, thus producing some perfect, harmonious fit. Yet this view overlooks a fundamental truth: people do not merely occlude , they react . When two individuals with equally destructive tendencies come together, the outcome is rarely complementary. More often, their flaws collide and compound, setting off a spiral of mutual torment and recrimination. The ideal of perfect mechanical pairing collapses, replaced by the all-too-human reality of emotional escalation and dysfunction—a scenario that, far from resolving individual wounds, magnifies them into some of the most painful entanglements humanity can produce.

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 08:20:15.112343","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 08:20:15.112343","replyToPostNumber":14,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":143,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":7245,"username":"anon42647320","name":null}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54206,"postNumber":20,"raw":"实际上，有人格缺陷的人不适合和任何人谈恋爱。维持一段真实和高质量的感情是有门槛的，对个人修养和道德有着某种限度的要求。","cooked":"

实际上，有人格缺陷的人不适合和任何人谈恋爱。维持一段真实和高质量的感情是有门槛的，对个人修养和道德有着某种限度的要求。

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 08:23:47.445306","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 08:23:47.445306","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":2,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":59,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54207,"postNumber":21,"raw":"Exactly.The best and the only thing they shall gladly do is to STAY IN ONE’S LANE and NOT to talk some innocent others into some will-be future disaster","cooked":"

Exactly.The best and the only thing they shall gladly do is to STAY IN ONE’S LANE and NOT to talk some innocent others into some will-be future disaster

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 08:30:23.097309","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 08:30:23.097309","replyToPostNumber":20,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":28,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54208,"postNumber":22,"raw":"[quote=\"shared_user, post:20, topic:14662, username:anonymous_coward\"]\n人格缺陷\n[/quote]\n\n一些特征：\n\n- 认为世界是不公平的\n- 道德系统比较初级，使用二分法将人类划分为“好人”和“坏人”， “我们”和“他们”\n- 十分在意别人对自己的评价\n- 喜欢编织故事，虚构未来\n- 认识的来源是自己的感受，权威，重复出现的内容。遇到困难时会优先寻找意见领袖 (网络大 V)。\n- 喜欢人云亦云，在一段时期极度偏执于某种意识形态，幻觉破灭后又会极度偏执于另一种意识形态\n- 无法意识到所有人都是井底之蛙（尤其是对待自己）\n- 在背后议论其他人，并对自己实际上没有了解的事情发表非常确定性的评价\n- 不理解“己所不欲勿施于人”，会施加自己恐惧和厌恶的事情在其他人身上\n- 对自己和其他人不诚实，擅长逻辑诡辩\n- 对“勇气”的词表征更多与“仇恨”、“复仇”等联系在一起，而不是“坚守自己的原则”，事实上自己没有明确的原则","cooked":"

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tshared_user:\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n
人格缺陷
\n

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

一些特征：

认为世界是不公平的
道德系统比较初级，使用二分法将人类划分为“好人”和“坏人”， “我们”和“他们”
十分在意别人对自己的评价
喜欢编织故事，虚构未来
认识的来源是自己的感受，权威，重复出现的内容。遇到困难时会优先寻找意见领袖 (网络大 V)。
喜欢人云亦云，在一段时期极度偏执于某种意识形态，幻觉破灭后又会极度偏执于另一种意识形态
无法意识到所有人都是井底之蛙（尤其是对待自己）
在背后议论其他人，并对自己实际上没有了解的事情发表非常确定性的评价
不理解“己所不欲勿施于人”，会施加自己恐惧和厌恶的事情在其他人身上
对自己和其他人不诚实，擅长逻辑诡辩
对“勇气”的词表征更多与“仇恨”、“复仇”等联系在一起，而不是“坚守自己的原则”，事实上自己没有明确的原则

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 08:38:00.675485","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 08:38:00.675485","replyToPostNumber":20,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":335,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54239,"postNumber":23,"raw":"![~~顶楼的赛博女鬼~~](/uploads/image/b7/0b/b70bf5887201cd3b23243e9b06796ad07fc5220800124fa1384091f4adc09f97.avif)\n\n在谈了在谈了。","cooked":"

$\"~~顶楼的赛博女鬼~~\"$

在谈了在谈了。

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 09:41:23.875698","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 09:41:23.875698","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":4,"wordCount":16,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":4,"users":[{"id":7245,"username":"anon42647320","name":null},{"id":7364,"username":"青年杰出贡献上交大門人","name":"紫金港第一皮革<・)))><<"},{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"},{"id":7550,"username":"sumire","name":"アイラちゃん"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/f7/1b/f71bbda87a32de08df517fe7ee4a14e3f63bfd1b2105d3ddb8ba1f4c2eaa1c29.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"[right]——發自我的手機[/right]","signatureCooked":"

——發自我的手機

"}},{"id":54272,"postNumber":24,"raw":"哇还有巴黎圣母院","cooked":"

哇还有巴黎圣母院

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 12:06:30.217022","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 12:06:30.217022","replyToPostNumber":16,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":8,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":7364,"username":"青年杰出贡献上交大門人","name":"紫金港第一皮革<・)))><<"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7137,"username":"emu_otori","name":"鳳笑夢","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/0b/13/0b133abcd3dfadb90fdbf7583cfdc31ec56db3dbd063fce95dbe0f09296b527a.avif","admin":false,"moderator":true,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54280,"postNumber":25,"raw":"## 罗素《幸福之路》\n\n### 《不幸福的成因》章节节选：\n\n\n> 我相信，大部分的不幸福之产生，是因为错误的世界观、伦理观或是生活习惯破坏了人们对事物与生俱来的热情和兴致，而这些事物正是人类和动物赖以得到幸福的泉源。\n\n\n### 《拜伦式的不幸》章节节选：\n\n> 理性是无法阻挠快乐的。\n\n> **我不认为不快乐里有什么超人一等的理性**。就好像在历史上数个阶段曾经发生过的一样，现代也有这种常见的观念：智者已然看透过往时代的激情，生命里再也没有什么值得追求了。有这样观念的人，通常不快乐，但是他们相当自豪于自己的不快乐，认为那是宇宙的真理，是一个彻悟的人该有的理性态度。这种对不快乐的自傲，让其他人怀疑它的真实度，**如果能够这么享受悲惨，那么悲惨也应该没那么悲惨了。这样的想法显然过于浅薄，当然，感觉自我的见识超人一等，能得到某种补偿的情绪，但这种情绪绝不足以取代简单的快乐**。\n\n> 我不认为不快乐里有什么超人一等的理性。在环境允许下，理性的人可以快乐，如果他真发现沉思于宇宙议题太痛苦，那就找别的议题来沉思。\n\n> 我们必须分辨感觉和知性表述。你没有办法和感觉争辩，感觉会因为某件幸事或者生理状况而改变，但没有办法经由说服而改变。\n\n> 欠缺某些想要的东西，是快乐的必要条件。\n\n> 我们正处于疑惑的年代，很多旧标准被抛弃了，新标准却尚未建立，这引出很多问题。当众人的潜意识仍信奉旧标准的时候，问题的出现往往造成绝望、悔恨和愤世嫉俗。我认为遭遇这样的情况的人并不多，只是这些人往往是发声机会最多的人。\n\n> 历史上的不同时代，产生过不同形式的**独身主义**哲学，有些非常神圣，有些却不然。斯多葛学派和早期的基督徒相信，**人光靠自己的力量，不靠他人的协助，就有能力了解什么是人类生命能够完成的最大的善**。我个人认为，这样的观点是错误的，不仅在伦理上是错的，在人的天性上也是不对的。人仰赖合作，合作是自然赋予人的天性，尽管这种天性从某种程度上来说并不充分，但有了这种本能的装配，合作所需要的友好关系才得以产生。爱是导致合作的第一种也是最常见的情感形式。\n\n\n> 只是因为我们不再认为某些人很伟大，享有悲剧性的权利，而其他人只能苦哈哈地劳动，供给那些少数的尊贵阶级。莎士比亚说： \"当乞丐死去，彗星不会划过天际；上天只为王子的死亡发出光芒\"。在莎士比亚时代，这样的想法也许不是人人皆信，但至少反映了当时普遍的价值观，也是莎士比亚深信不疑的。因此诗人辛纳之死是喜剧的，恺撒、布鲁特斯和卡修斯的死是悲剧的。对我们来说，某个人的死亡已不可能再给我们天崩地裂的感觉，因为社会已变得民主，不管是在外在的形式上，还是内心深处的认定上。因此，现代的伟大悲剧不能只和某人相关，而必须与**整个社群**相关。就像亚里士多德说的，悲剧应该“通过怜悯和恐惧洗涤读者”。像这样的现代悲剧非常少，因为旧技巧和旧传统必须被废弃，但又不能仅用普通的今日教育去代替。要感受悲剧，人必须要了解他所处的世界，不仅仅是用心灵去感受，还要用生命和激情去感受。他和他的文学朋友**还没学习到如何用旧情绪来回应新刺激**。刺激是存在的，只是不存在于文学圈子。文学圈子和社会严重脱节，要想让悲剧取得严肃、深刻的情感，就必须让文学圈子里的人去接触社会。对于那些溺于情感，认为世界上没有值得做的事情的年轻人，我的忠告是，别尝试写作了，而是真正走入这个世界；做海盗、做婆罗洲的国王、做苏联的劳工；**找件可以让基本生理需求用光你的能量的事情做**。我并不建议每个人都这么做，而那些有着和克鲁齐先生相似疾病的人是可以这么做的。我相信，过了几年这样的日子，这些人必定再也无法抑制写作的欲望，而那时，写作对他来说就不再是一件空虚的事了。","cooked":"

罗素《幸福之路》

《不幸福的成因》章节节选：

\n
我相信，大部分的不幸福之产生，是因为错误的世界观、伦理观或是生活习惯破坏了人们对事物与生俱来的热情和兴致，而这些事物正是人类和动物赖以得到幸福的泉源。
\n

《拜伦式的不幸》章节节选：

\n
理性是无法阻挠快乐的。
\n

\n
我不认为不快乐里有什么超人一等的理性。就好像在历史上数个阶段曾经发生过的一样，现代也有这种常见的观念：智者已然看透过往时代的激情，生命里再也没有什么值得追求了。有这样观念的人，通常不快乐，但是他们相当自豪于自己的不快乐，认为那是宇宙的真理，是一个彻悟的人该有的理性态度。这种对不快乐的自傲，让其他人怀疑它的真实度，如果能够这么享受悲惨，那么悲惨也应该没那么悲惨了。这样的想法显然过于浅薄，当然，感觉自我的见识超人一等，能得到某种补偿的情绪，但这种情绪绝不足以取代简单的快乐。
\n

\n
我不认为不快乐里有什么超人一等的理性。在环境允许下，理性的人可以快乐，如果他真发现沉思于宇宙议题太痛苦，那就找别的议题来沉思。
\n

\n
我们必须分辨感觉和知性表述。你没有办法和感觉争辩，感觉会因为某件幸事或者生理状况而改变，但没有办法经由说服而改变。
\n

\n
欠缺某些想要的东西，是快乐的必要条件。
\n

\n
我们正处于疑惑的年代，很多旧标准被抛弃了，新标准却尚未建立，这引出很多问题。当众人的潜意识仍信奉旧标准的时候，问题的出现往往造成绝望、悔恨和愤世嫉俗。我认为遭遇这样的情况的人并不多，只是这些人往往是发声机会最多的人。
\n

\n
历史上的不同时代，产生过不同形式的独身主义哲学，有些非常神圣，有些却不然。斯多葛学派和早期的基督徒相信，人光靠自己的力量，不靠他人的协助，就有能力了解什么是人类生命能够完成的最大的善。我个人认为，这样的观点是错误的，不仅在伦理上是错的，在人的天性上也是不对的。人仰赖合作，合作是自然赋予人的天性，尽管这种天性从某种程度上来说并不充分，但有了这种本能的装配，合作所需要的友好关系才得以产生。爱是导致合作的第一种也是最常见的情感形式。
\n

\n
只是因为我们不再认为某些人很伟大，享有悲剧性的权利，而其他人只能苦哈哈地劳动，供给那些少数的尊贵阶级。莎士比亚说： \"当乞丐死去，彗星不会划过天际；上天只为王子的死亡发出光芒\"。在莎士比亚时代，这样的想法也许不是人人皆信，但至少反映了当时普遍的价值观，也是莎士比亚深信不疑的。因此诗人辛纳之死是喜剧的，恺撒、布鲁特斯和卡修斯的死是悲剧的。对我们来说，某个人的死亡已不可能再给我们天崩地裂的感觉，因为社会已变得民主，不管是在外在的形式上，还是内心深处的认定上。因此，现代的伟大悲剧不能只和某人相关，而必须与整个社群相关。就像亚里士多德说的，悲剧应该“通过怜悯和恐惧洗涤读者”。像这样的现代悲剧非常少，因为旧技巧和旧传统必须被废弃，但又不能仅用普通的今日教育去代替。要感受悲剧，人必须要了解他所处的世界，不仅仅是用心灵去感受，还要用生命和激情去感受。他和他的文学朋友还没学习到如何用旧情绪来回应新刺激。刺激是存在的，只是不存在于文学圈子。文学圈子和社会严重脱节，要想让悲剧取得严肃、深刻的情感，就必须让文学圈子里的人去接触社会。对于那些溺于情感，认为世界上没有值得做的事情的年轻人，我的忠告是，别尝试写作了，而是真正走入这个世界；做海盗、做婆罗洲的国王、做苏联的劳工；找件可以让基本生理需求用光你的能量的事情做。我并不建议每个人都这么做，而那些有着和克鲁齐先生相似疾病的人是可以这么做的。我相信，过了几年这样的日子，这些人必定再也无法抑制写作的欲望，而那时，写作对他来说就不再是一件空虚的事了。
\n

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 12:53:40.862354","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 12:53:40.862354","replyToPostNumber":13,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":4,"wordCount":1479,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":4,"users":[{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null},{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"},{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"},{"id":7550,"username":"sumire","name":"アイラちゃん"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4148,"username":"sad-dharma-vipralopa","name":"Echo est ubi sum","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/fd/e3/fde3022e639c0b35239b5c831c0f8ea3600eceb69353bcc2fb5e795f79d789ca.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54284,"postNumber":26,"raw":"期末周考完一定研读此书","cooked":"

期末周考完一定研读此书

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-02 13:47:29.305088","updatedAt":"2025-06-02 13:47:29.305088","replyToPostNumber":25,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":11,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/ee/4b/ee4bedb343782076342a731467b6dce60632d57d0ae06e97898e9b51bac354d3.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":54470,"postNumber":27,"raw":"### 曾耳闻兔子会因寂寞而死，你的心到底是在什么时候被杀的...？\n\n[grid mode=\"tile\"]\n![image|690x382](/uploads/image/95/77/95777e329e57eefc7cd0541e99950c5f462c6060b99f703885325c2f167bab70.avif)\n\n\n![image|690x141](/uploads/image/10/61/10612b984dcd759053d427f4ea24d27dedf76f24f3028d52039a7c36e6d1f023.avif)\n\n\n![image|690x361](/uploads/image/35/ca/35ca9574d86dd485e86b7379ce0d33214146569b82b68bb7e32b17f153908b57.avif)\n[/grid]","cooked":"

曾耳闻兔子会因寂寞而死，你的心到底是在什么时候被杀的...？

$\"image\"$

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-03 14:24:27.918723","updatedAt":"2025-06-03 14:24:27.918723","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":3,"wordCount":34,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":3,"users":[{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"},{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"},{"id":7550,"username":"sumire","name":"アイラちゃん"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":55547,"postNumber":36,"raw":"在我交际的过程中我发现我需要的恋爱和友情几乎一样，谈恋爱相比友情实际上的差别也就是需不需要涉及浪漫和性？但是这两个我都不在乎，生理欲望很低，处心积虑创造浪漫也不如陪我一起幻想。\n\n另外恋爱，之后如果要结婚，那还需要涉及一个责任，但我的责任意识很淡……也许和朋友同居也能做到一样的事情嘛。\n\n当然我也不会特别拒绝恋爱，毕竟我交朋友和谈恋爱大概用的也是一条路线？","cooked":"

在我交际的过程中我发现我需要的恋爱和友情几乎一样，谈恋爱相比友情实际上的差别也就是需不需要涉及浪漫和性？但是这两个我都不在乎，生理欲望很低，处心积虑创造浪漫也不如陪我一起幻想。

另外恋爱，之后如果要结婚，那还需要涉及一个责任，但我的责任意识很淡……也许和朋友同居也能做到一样的事情嘛。

当然我也不会特别拒绝恋爱，毕竟我交朋友和谈恋爱大概用的也是一条路线？

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-08 04:18:05.598763","updatedAt":"2025-06-08 04:18:05.598763","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":4,"wordCount":174,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":4,"users":[{"id":346,"username":"hoist","name":null},{"id":7220,"username":"东川路第一mzk推","name":"anon30248587"},{"id":7364,"username":"青年杰出贡献上交大門人","name":"紫金港第一皮革<・)))><<"},{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7528,"username":"夜阑观星海","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/b7/dd/b7dd0999bf9c775e4550a46406ca6c8fca3a1d7c8daf956630a3b579617e584d.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":55549,"postNumber":37,"raw":"[quote=\"夜阑观星海，post:36, topic:14662\"]\n生理欲望很低\n[/quote]\n\n我过去二十年也是这样，以为自己是无性恋。后来还是遇到让自己沦陷的人了","cooked":"

\n\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t夜阑观星海，post:36, topic:14662:\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t

\n
生理欲望很低
\n

\n\t\t\t\t

我过去二十年也是这样，以为自己是无性恋。后来还是遇到让自己沦陷的人了

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-08 04:33:47.877246","updatedAt":"2025-06-08 04:33:47.877246","replyToPostNumber":36,"replyCount":2,"likeCount":4,"wordCount":49,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":4,"users":[{"id":346,"username":"hoist","name":null},{"id":2877,"username":"Zerick","name":null},{"id":5905,"username":"PipaQinse233","name":"PipaQinse233"},{"id":7220,"username":"东川路第一mzk推","name":"anon30248587"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":55550,"postNumber":38,"raw":"[quote=\"shared_user, post:37, topic:14662, username:anonymous_coward\"]\n后来还是遇到让自己沦陷的人了\n[/quote]\n\n真的吗？\n我的观点和上一位门友观点基本一致，交友和恋爱对我而言没有区别。而谈恋爱这种一对一的形式一定程度上是在限制交友的自由\n我也一直认为自己是无性恋，觉得自己这辈子都不会踏入恋爱这种状态","cooked":"

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tshared_user:\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

\n
后来还是遇到让自己沦陷的人了
\n

\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

真的吗？
\n我的观点和上一位门友观点基本一致，交友和恋爱对我而言没有区别。而谈恋爱这种一对一的形式一定程度上是在限制交友的自由
\n我也一直认为自己是无性恋，觉得自己这辈子都不会踏入恋爱这种状态

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-08 04:37:26.246771","updatedAt":"2025-06-08 04:39:07.353626","replyToPostNumber":37,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":4,"wordCount":111,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":4,"users":[{"id":346,"username":"hoist","name":null},{"id":1731,"username":"sJtupid","name":"JacKeiner"},{"id":7220,"username":"东川路第一mzk推","name":"anon30248587"},{"id":7364,"username":"青年杰出贡献上交大門人","name":"紫金港第一皮革<・)))><<"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/ee/4b/ee4bedb343782076342a731467b6dce60632d57d0ae06e97898e9b51bac354d3.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":55554,"postNumber":39,"raw":"那就是对两性间吸引力感知不是太强🤔\n\n抛开这个角度，交朋友就是伴侣也没啥区别（对我来说，因为我不咋看双方家庭和物质基础）","cooked":"

那就是对两性间吸引力感知不是太强🤔

抛开这个角度，交朋友就是伴侣也没啥区别（对我来说，因为我不咋看双方家庭和物质基础）

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-08 04:51:50.045124","updatedAt":"2025-06-08 04:51:50.045124","replyToPostNumber":38,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":3,"wordCount":58,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":3,"users":[{"id":7220,"username":"东川路第一mzk推","name":"anon30248587"},{"id":7364,"username":"青年杰出贡献上交大門人","name":"紫金港第一皮革<・)))><<"},{"id":7444,"username":"周末","name":"😀"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":1731,"username":"sJtupid","name":"JacKeiner","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/4d/a4/4da40d29188cd258709595a447d96cf66a52161ffa6a38cabb0a809c409dceb7.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":55557,"postNumber":40,"raw":"诶诶，无性恋也是恋啊，和完全无心又不是一回事（？）沦陷我也可以因为对方的温柔知性沦陷，只是生理欲望在这个过程中占据比较小的一部分而已？因为性别和颜值我都可以不太在意的","cooked":"

诶诶，无性恋也是恋啊，和完全无心又不是一回事（？）沦陷我也可以因为对方的温柔知性沦陷，只是生理欲望在这个过程中占据比较小的一部分而已？因为性别和颜值我都可以不太在意的

\n","createdAt":"2025-06-08 05:20:20.173688","updatedAt":"2025-06-08 05:20:20.173688","replyToPostNumber":37,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":81,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":7220,"username":"东川路第一mzk推","name":"anon30248587"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":7528,"username":"夜阑观星海","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/b7/dd/b7dd0999bf9c775e4550a46406ca6c8fca3a1d7c8daf956630a3b579617e584d.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}}],"hasMore":false,"lastReadPostNumber":40,"hasUrlPostNumber":true}