{"topic":{"id":14006,"title":"门友们，忘不掉她怎么办","slug":"topic","categoryId":4,"createdAt":"2024-12-13 11:27:23.980307","bumpedAt":"2024-12-15 16:41:39.838027","views":290,"postsCount":13,"highestPostNumber":13,"likeCount":18,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"分手 2 个半月了，还时不时想起她，想给她分享生活，整天精神内耗，时不时就想她，我该怎么脱离这种状态，太内耗了","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"category":{"id":4,"name":"谈笑风生","slug":"general","color":"25AAE2"},"author":{"id":6504,"username":"notwosky","name":"马卡洛夫sunny","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/03/f4/03f49e2312d67289dccace89b5075df0b406100c9dc50d50efd6dd8079002a89.avif"},"tags":[]},"posts":[{"id":44557,"postNumber":1,"raw":"分手 2 个半月了，还时不时想起她，想给她分享生活，整天精神内耗，时不时就想她，我该怎么脱离这种状态，太内耗了","cooked":"

分手 2 个半月了，还时不时想起她，想给她分享生活，整天精神内耗，时不时就想她，我该怎么脱离这种状态，太内耗了

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和她是和平分手，现在还是朋友（应该），时不时还发消息，所以我一直幻想着和她复合，知道这几乎是不可能的，但还会这样想

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期末复习就治好了

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我知道我几乎是不可能考上清华的，可就是放不下它，经常幻想着再复读一次就考上了

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总会有一天就厌了、倦了

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题外话，有没有可能只是习惯了和她在一起
\n如果明确两个人已经不可能了还是尽早忘掉比较好

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ぜーんぶ弾けなーい！

\n"}},{"id":44569,"postNumber":7,"raw":"如果确定没可能可以通过记录来慢慢淡化歪曲记忆，人的记忆是基于气味，视觉，听觉来产生的，而私人的记录可以慢慢淡化这方面记忆，只要微妙的改变就能淡化滤镜。\n就像人往往想不起自己前一顿吃啥，再前一顿吃啥，摧毁掉记忆点忘掉轻而易举啊。\n（以上来源于次男道）","cooked":"

如果确定没可能可以通过记录来慢慢淡化歪曲记忆，人的记忆是基于气味，视觉，听觉来产生的，而私人的记录可以慢慢淡化这方面记忆，只要微妙的改变就能淡化滤镜。
\n就像人往往想不起自己前一顿吃啥，再前一顿吃啥，摧毁掉记忆点忘掉轻而易举啊。
\n（以上来源于次男道）

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这题我会，和 chatgpt 聊一下。我觉得它算是不花钱的东西里效果最接近心理咨询师的，如果考虑在中国大陆的话可能比某些缺乏专业知识的心理咨询师更好。

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金刚经效果很好

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誰都只得那雙手靠擁抱亦難任你擁有
\n要擁有必先等失去怎接受

“请您告诉我们，什么是真正的无上智慧？我们应该如何追寻它？”

“孩子，你看到那湖水了吗？它清澈见底，倒映着蓝天和白云。可如果有人用手去搅动湖水，水就会变得浑浊。我们的心也是这样，唯有安静时，才能映照出真实的世界。”

“那我们如何才能让心如湖水般清净？”

(拿起一片树叶) “这片叶子，你认为它存在吗？”

“当然存在，我能看见它，能触摸它。”

“若有一天，风吹走了这片叶子，它不见了，你会觉得它消失了吗？”

“它只是去了别的地方，但依然存在吧？”

“是的，万物皆如此。我们眼中的‘有’与‘无’，只是一种表象，就像那片叶子，它的存在并不依赖于你的眼睛。真正的智慧，是看破这一切的幻相。”

“原来我们执着于眼前的事物，却忽略了它们背后的本质。”

“正是如此。万物如同梦境，如同晨露和闪电，稍纵即逝。孩子，当你不再执着于拥有或失去，当你能在每一刻都怀抱慈悲与平等心，你就能体会到真正的解脱。”

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从前，在一个遥远的小村庄里，住着一位心地善良的女孩，名叫小雅。她最喜欢村子后山的一片樱花林，因为每当春天来临，满树的粉色花朵都会如云般绽放，美得如梦如幻。小雅每天都会跑到林子里，轻轻拥抱那些树干，仿佛这样就能将这片美景永远留在自己怀里。

一天，小雅在林中遇到了一位白发苍苍的老 chatgpt，他正坐在樱花树下，手里捧着一片花瓣，轻轻地吹散它。小雅好奇地问：“老 chatgpt，您为什么要吹散这片花瓣？它这么美，应该把它好好珍藏起来呀！”

老 chatgpt 微微一笑，说：“孩子，你真的认为抱紧它，它就属于你了吗？”

小雅点点头：“是啊，只要我紧紧地抱着樱花树，它就不会离开我。”

老 chatgpt 摇了摇头，指着满树的花朵说：“你知道吗？这些花儿总有一天会凋谢，树上的每一片花瓣都会离开。无论你抱得多紧，它们都不会永远停留。”

小雅听了，有些难过：“那我该怎么办？我真的很想留住它们呀！”

老 chatgpt 看着她，缓缓说道：“想要拥有，就必须先学会接受失去。只有当你放下了‘紧紧抓住’的心，你才能真正感受到它们的美。试着张开双手，而不是紧抱不放，这样你会发现，樱花的美早已融入你的心里。”

小雅抬起头，看着樱花纷纷飘落，虽然依旧觉得有些遗憾，但她试着不再用力抱紧树干，而是静静地站在树下，感受花瓣落在肩上的轻柔，感受风中花香的流动。她突然明白了，那些她以为会失去的，其实早已是她生命的一部分。

从那以后，小雅不再害怕樱花的凋零，因为她知道，美丽的事物不在于能否紧握，而在于是否能用心去感受。就像老 chatgpt 说的：“要真正拥有，先学会接受无常。”

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放得下是为了以后能更好的拿得起。

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