{"topic":{"id":13740,"title":"总跟我说大学可以不读了是因为你们知道我不会退学","slug":"topic","categoryId":4,"createdAt":"2024-10-23 12:18:40.850781","bumpedAt":"2024-11-10 19:03:33.318394","views":480,"postsCount":25,"highestPostNumber":25,"likeCount":29,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"但为什么说到休学就剩下再坚持一会呢？","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"category":{"id":4,"name":"谈笑风生","slug":"general","color":"25AAE2"},"author":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif"},"tags":[]},"posts":[{"id":41967,"postNumber":1,"raw":"但为什么说到休学就剩下再坚持一会呢？","cooked":"

但为什么说到休学就剩下再坚持一会呢？

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因为他们只会将自己代入和你一样的角色（非常表面），却无法共情，所以说出的话都是 nonsense

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不知道为什么看到这个帖子的时候突然就想起杨和苏的《小丑女》里的歌词

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ぜーんぶ弾けなーい！

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在中国任何时间点都不能比别人慢

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骨子里没有严肃看待一些问题。比如说，为什么要休学呢？上学为什么还会坚持不下来？大概是因为上一代人没有上过这样的水准的学校，用自己的经验得出的结论。同样的，各种生活上的施压，也大概是因为靠经验，而不正视社会变化的快速。“我们当年哪有那么多心理问题”，是的，严重的人后来都消失了，身边统计学可太对了您嘞。“我们当年哪有那么多 xx 病”，是的，所以他们都嘎了。所以我比较鄙视那些思想古板，早就被时代抛弃的上一代人，他们也许享受了一些时代的红利，但德不配位罢了

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op 爹妈是超级卷王，读的本科比西交还好 😇结果基因突变地生下了 op 这个脆弱的家伙。。

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经典双高知和基因没啥关系

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你要理解一点，他们只在他们所在的专业领域能给你指导，其他方面应该保留怀疑，和对待陌生人的建议一样，因为最能感知自己所在环境的不可能是别人

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op 爹妈是超级卷王，读的本科比西交还好
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我有个朋友父母是清华计算机院的教授，来读了我们这的一个破双非 🤣（我不是西交的）

我还是觉得爸妈这辈子不可能都管着你，何况读了大学之后的自由度高了很多，楼主或许应该自己调整一下，也许去寻找自己的独立？

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结果基因突变地生下了 op 这个脆弱的家伙。。
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op 能理性地和大家说出来一起讨论这个问题就已经很棒了 hhh 🤗

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ぜーんぶ弾けなーい！

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很正常的，甚至有可能你家里望女成凤望子某个动作电影泰斗的氛围造就了你现在的性格。(希望你看到这句话能短暂的开心一下)

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《孩子休学之后》大概花 15min 可以看完。

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Hard time comes again and never leave.

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中国人关键的一生

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我父母也是很会读书的人，但是据我观察他们以及我的高中数学老师（与我父母同岁，且也是去了非常好的大学），他们当年上一个好大学的难度远低于今天去一个好大学的难度，当时的超级卷王以今天的标准看可能是个躺平党，eg.我数学老师说那时候很多人根本没有念大学的想法，不念大学也很好，接着回家种水稻就行了，习题册就一本，也没有多余的题给你做，每天就做个位数的题，然后就去高考，完全没有今日的超级内卷，以至于我数学老师开玩笑说他是不会种水稻所以”被迫“学习。

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相应的当年考技术学校的难度不亚于现在考 211，那时经济有下行压力，大学不包分配，而技术学院只要考上就相当于一只手摸到铁饭碗，对于资质相对平庸的人来说是一个重要的出路。父亲当时是复读去的铁路高等专科学校，母亲在高中毕业后，干了一段时间零工又辞职备考，考了两年考上了对女生录取率极低的当地的铁路技术学校。

而现在考上好大学的难度逐年增加，和技术学校的没落有一定关系，学生除了玩命堆高分数考上尽可能好的大学以外没有更好的出路。

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爷爷当年宰了唯一的一头猪，摆大餐给工头吃才换来进工厂的名额。记得模糊了，月薪是十几元吧，他说比种田啥的赚的多多 🥹

\n","createdAt":"2024-10-24 13:15:13.908305","updatedAt":"2024-10-24 13:15:13.908305","replyToPostNumber":13,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":56,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":346,"username":"hoist","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/0d/cd/0dcdf69d213b6798002779ad4b729567cd4d889ee4a56c07a8c4454e8b563219.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":42032,"postNumber":16,"raw":"感觉有一点，父母某种程度上也是别人，子女与父母在意见上不统一也是难免。","cooked":"

感觉有一点，父母某种程度上也是别人，子女与父母在意见上不统一也是难免。

\n","createdAt":"2024-10-25 03:13:50.21484","updatedAt":"2024-10-25 03:13:50.21484","replyToPostNumber":6,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":35,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":424,"username":"ascah","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/5e/97/5e97b59e771d24d1195b20454be3dd5ec6a74b6581b637ec88711aa70f6372bb.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":42033,"postNumber":17,"raw":"时代的眼泪\n我奶奶当时花了很多钱给我姑姑办城镇户口\n说有了城镇户口就有工作","cooked":"

时代的眼泪
\n我奶奶当时花了很多钱给我姑姑办城镇户口
\n说有了城镇户口就有工作

\n","createdAt":"2024-10-25 03:20:46.916867","updatedAt":"2024-10-25 03:20:46.916867","replyToPostNumber":15,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":35,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":5151,"username":"Soyo34325","name":"Soyo34325","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/9d/e5/9de500d3afb55c0fe71e319832f2af75532222efe94bd3de9aea21f0f5c55707.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"ぜーんぶ弾けなーい！","signatureCooked":"

ぜーんぶ弾けなーい！

\n"}},{"id":42035,"postNumber":18,"raw":"最重要的是搞清楚问题在哪，怎么样去解决。这个过程可能比较长、也很不好受，但请鼓起勇气。\n\n本人最近也在面临巨大的压力和很多问题，状态很不稳定。但是退缩只能越陷越深，直面问题并迅速开始尝试一一化解是唯一的选择。\n\n加油吧。\n\n其实每当遇到这种情况，最想知道的就是自己并不孤独啊 :pleading: 朋友可以提供力量，但很有限，最重要的还是靠自己。\n\n也算是一次抗压训练吧","cooked":"

最重要的是搞清楚问题在哪，怎么样去解决。这个过程可能比较长、也很不好受，但请鼓起勇气。

本人最近也在面临巨大的压力和很多问题，状态很不稳定。但是退缩只能越陷越深，直面问题并迅速开始尝试一一化解是唯一的选择。

加油吧。

其实每当遇到这种情况，最想知道的就是自己并不孤独啊 🥺 朋友可以提供力量，但很有限，最重要的还是靠自己。

也算是一次抗压训练吧

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\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t羽衣若风，post:18, topic:13740, username:uijakfuu:\n\t\t\t\t\t\t

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\n
最想知道的就是自己并不孤独啊 🥺
\n

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想获得在同一条战线上的朋友，但是好难
\n总有种被利用的感觉，只能和其他领域的朋友们倾诉心声

\n","createdAt":"2024-10-25 05:55:58.240912","updatedAt":"2024-10-25 05:55:58.240912","replyToPostNumber":18,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":67,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":6205,"username":"uika_winwing","name":null}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":151,"username":"Rin","name":"Tomotake Rin","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/dd/40/dd40df04070180d25dc835b8f1ad472ded596141699d602ec04ff13e27375bd9.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"无所谓，热带风味 :woman_gesturing_no:","signatureCooked":"

无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

\n"}},{"id":42038,"postNumber":20,"raw":"不要忘记特殊的记忆\n你属于更大的世界","cooked":"

不要忘记特殊的记忆
\n你属于更大的世界

\n","createdAt":"2024-10-25 06:57:01.124872","updatedAt":"2024-10-25 06:57:01.124872","replyToPostNumber":18,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":17,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":6205,"username":"uika_winwing","name":null}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/86/f2/86f267c0aaa73835a999b7cc3a7e7a701605574eda9a2c2a56f5ddbbba64d1a9.avif","admin":true,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"","signatureCooked":null}},{"id":42043,"postNumber":21,"raw":"谢谢。我只是不擅长受伤、不擅长分别，没有过这种经验。\n\n听不懂什么底层的互害与技俩，总是觉得人与人之间充满了和谐与善意。\n\n是这个世界错了呢？还是我不适应这个新世界？","cooked":"

谢谢。我只是不擅长受伤、不擅长分别，没有过这种经验。

听不懂什么底层的互害与技俩，总是觉得人与人之间充满了和谐与善意。

是这个世界错了呢？还是我不适应这个新世界？

\n","createdAt":"2024-10-25 10:36:09.452556","updatedAt":"2024-10-25 10:39:56.763731","replyToPostNumber":20,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":79,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"🎆️","count":1,"users":[{"id":151,"username":"Rin","name":"Tomotake Rin"}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":151,"username":"Rin","name":"Tomotake Rin"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":6205,"username":"uika_winwing","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/76/3b/763b1e5ad8a424c4450bb26cea5ae532e7b1cd9da926ac5d99215d7123bf6002.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":42045,"postNumber":22,"raw":"现在越来越觉得我们需要的只是一个 connection。人永远是孤独的，你也不需要其他人真正理解你的思想。\n\n渴望社交，可能只是面对天敌时想要置身于一个群体之中的生物本能。","cooked":"

现在越来越觉得我们需要的只是一个 connection。人永远是孤独的，你也不需要其他人真正理解你的思想。

渴望社交，可能只是面对天敌时想要置身于一个群体之中的生物本能。

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For Julia, in the Deep Water
\nJOHN N. MORRIS (1931-1997)

TOBIAS WOLFF
\nI have raised three children, and lived through this very moment with bravely, from the window of the vanishing bus; handing them the keys to the car for their first solo run; sending them away to college, to foreign countries, to romance and marriage-learning to stand back, doing nothing, as they enter the deep water.

And this poem always makes it happen again for me: that sense of my children needing help, needing me, that helplessness, that desola-tion of letting go, that joy in their courage, their hunger for all of life's possibilities and hazards. And always the knowledge, sometimes sleeping, sometimes awake, sometimes jangling like an alarm, that in the end they will fllow where I am bound,whatever the skill and struggle that has kept us afloat. They will learn to let go, as I am sill learning to let go. I never did anything harder.

And this poem always makes it happen again for me: that sense of my children needing help, needing me, that helplessness, that desolation of letting go, that joy in their courage, their hunger for all of life's possibilities and hazards. And always the knowledge, sometimes sleeping, sometimes awake, sometimes jangling like an alarm, that in the end they will follow where I am bound,whatever the skill and struggle that has kept us afloat. They will learn to let go, as I am sill learning to let go. I never did anything harder.
\nFor Julia, in the Deep Water
\nThe instructor we hire
\nbecause she does not love you
\nLeads you into the deep water,
\nThe deep end
\nWhere the water is darker
\nHer open, encouraging arms
\nThat never get nearer
\nAre merciless for your sake.
\nYou will dream this water always
\nWhere nothing draws nearer,
\nWasting your valuable breath
\nYou will scream for your mother-
\nOnly your mother is drowning
\nForever in the thin air
\nDown at the deep end.
\nShe is doing nothing,
\nShe never did anything harder.
\nAnd I am beside her.
\nI am beside her in this imagination.
\nWe are waiting
\nWhere the water is darker.
\nYou are over your head,
\nScreaming, you are learning
\nYour way toward us,
\nYou are learning how
\nIn the helpless water
\nIt is with our skill
\nWe live in what kills us.

为朱莉亚，在深水中
\n约翰·N·莫里斯（1931-1997）

托比亚斯·沃尔夫
\n我养活了三个孩子，勇敢地经历了这一刻，从那辆渐行渐远的公交车的窗户看着；把车钥匙递给他们，让他们第一次独自驾驶；把他们送去上大学，去外国，去追求爱情和婚姻——学习在他们进入深水时，站在一旁什么也不做。

这首诗总是让我重新体验这一切：我孩子们需要帮助、需要我的感觉，那种无助感，那种放手的荒凉，那种对他们勇气的喜悦，对生活所有可能性和风险的渴望。还有那种知识，时而沉睡，时而清醒，时而像警报一样刺耳，最终他们将跟随我所走的路，无论是什么技巧和奋斗让我们得以维持。他们会学会放手，就像我仍在学习放手一样。我从未做过比这更困难的事情。

为朱莉亚，在深水中
\n我们雇用的教练
\n因为她不爱你
\n引导你进入深水，
\n深处
\n水更深邃，
\n她那开放、鼓励的臂膀
\n却从未靠近
\n为你毫不留情。
\n你将永远梦到这水
\n无物靠近，
\n浪费你宝贵的气息
\n你会为母亲呼喊——
\n而只有你的母亲在淹没
\n永远在那稀薄的空气中
\n在深水的尽头。
\n她什么也没做，
\n她从未做过更困难的事情。
\n而我在她身旁。
\n我在这个想象中与她同在。
\n我们在等待
\n水更深邃的地方。
\n你已经超出了自己的能力，
\n尖叫着，你正在学习
\n朝我们靠近，
\n你在学习如何
\n在这无助的水中，
\n凭借我们的技巧
\n我们活在让我们窒息的东西中。

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https://www.zhihu.com/question/614199558/answer/16337915179?utm_psn=1839140798811213824

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ぜーんぶ弾けなーい！

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