{"topic":{"id":11105,"title":"记录一次见在 Stanford 打工的佬的经历","slug":"topic","categoryId":4,"createdAt":"2024-03-30 03:08:25.490387","bumpedAt":"2024-04-01 08:37:19.677941","views":622,"postsCount":37,"highestPostNumber":37,"likeCount":33,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"题主昨天经历了忙碌的一天。早上起早赶去考科目一，中午去看了考场附近一个家里开小卖部的亲戚，下午又去见了一位离开西安了三十年、近期因为休假所以回来的亲戚，可谓是摄入信息量非常大而杂的一天。下午见的那位现在在斯坦福的实验室打工，和实验室老板的合同一年一续，在做前沿的研究。此人不论是性格、执行力还是看待世界的方式都给我留下了很深的印象，所以我最终决定在这里开个帖，整理一下自己的见闻。先挖个坑，这几天慢慢填。（叠甲：本鼠家境十分普通，能出…","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"category":{"id":4,"name":"谈笑风生","slug":"general","color":"25AAE2"},"author":{"id":3273,"username":"anon18815924","name":null,"avatarUrl":null},"tags":[]},"posts":[{"id":28110,"postNumber":1,"raw":"题主昨天经历了忙碌的一天。早上起早赶去考科目一，中午去看了考场附近一个家里开小卖部的亲戚，下午又去见了一位离开西安了三十年、近期因为休假所以回来的亲戚，可谓是摄入信息量非常大而杂的一天。\n下午见的那位现在在斯坦福的实验室打工，和实验室老板的合同一年一续，在做前沿的研究。此人不论是性格、执行力还是看待世界的方式都给我留下了很深的印象，所以我最终决定在这里开个帖，整理一下自己的见闻。\n先挖个坑，这几天慢慢填。\n\n（叠甲：本鼠家境十分普通，能出这么一位亲戚实属家里开了八辈子光，绝对没有任何炫耀之意，只是想记录一下这次经历，欢迎和平交流）","cooked":"

题主昨天经历了忙碌的一天。早上起早赶去考科目一，中午去看了考场附近一个家里开小卖部的亲戚，下午又去见了一位离开西安了三十年、近期因为休假所以回来的亲戚，可谓是摄入信息量非常大而杂的一天。
\n下午见的那位现在在斯坦福的实验室打工，和实验室老板的合同一年一续，在做前沿的研究。此人不论是性格、执行力还是看待世界的方式都给我留下了很深的印象，所以我最终决定在这里开个帖，整理一下自己的见闻。
\n先挖个坑，这几天慢慢填。

（叠甲：本鼠家境十分普通，能出这么一位亲戚实属家里开了八辈子光，绝对没有任何炫耀之意，只是想记录一下这次经历，欢迎和平交流）

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好耶好耶 CY

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千老？

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下面会用 X 来代指故事的主人公。
\n因为 ta 思维跳跃太快了，所以我的叙述做不到很强的连贯性，会分块写。

\n","createdAt":"2024-03-30 06:59:31.779381","updatedAt":"2024-03-30 06:59:31.779381","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":2,"wordCount":47,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":2,"users":[{"id":1047,"username":"anonymous_coward_old","name":"Anonymous Coward Old"},{"id":1941,"username":"john","name":"John"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":3273,"username":"anon18815924","name":null,"avatarUrl":null,"admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":28146,"postNumber":5,"raw":"对 X 最深的印象是 ta 非常清楚自己需要什么，并且有非常强的执行力。见面的时候就觉得此人（50 岁左右）精力十分充沛、大脑高度活跃，秒杀你交至少 80% 的脆皮大学生。\n以及，留意了一下前几天在讨论的每周工作时长问题，ta 说 ta 现在在 Stanford 一周工作 60h。据说这个时长在那里并不算多。","cooked":"

对 X 最深的印象是 ta 非常清楚自己需要什么，并且有非常强的执行力。见面的时候就觉得此人（50 岁左右）精力十分充沛、大脑高度活跃，秒杀你交至少 80% 的脆皮大学生。
\n以及，留意了一下前几天在讨论的每周工作时长问题，ta 说 ta 现在在 Stanford 一周工作 60h。据说这个时长在那里并不算多。

\n","createdAt":"2024-03-30 07:05:18.213294","updatedAt":"2024-03-30 07:05:18.213294","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":123,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":1941,"username":"john","name":"John"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":3273,"username":"anon18815924","name":null,"avatarUrl":null,"admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":28147,"postNumber":6,"raw":"继续这个话题，用 ta 讲述的自己的经历来详细描述一下。\nX 之前应该是中山大学的学生，毕业以后拿到了广州那边某医院的一个铁饭碗职位。但是 X 认为自己根本无法适应中国的人情社会，也因为交流经历而无法忍受中国的科研现状，所以毅然辞职出国。如标题中所述，ta 现在在斯坦福并没有稳定教职，而是一年一续的合同（疑似雇佣关系），在国内外都没有社保，退休后也没有退休金，但 X 完全不 care 这些，ta 只想做自己觉得非常有趣的前沿研究（糖尿病相关）。\n据 X 说，ta 早年有一次获得出国做交流项目的机会的时候，申到了国家提供的奖学金，签证也通过了，但导师不想放人，因为当时已经派给 ta 的项目还没有做完。项目做完的那天奖学金刚好到期，延期需要导师、各方领导和校长签字。导师非常不高兴自己的优质牛马要走，拒绝帮忙联系校长，ta 就直接自己冲去校长办公室门口要了签名。","cooked":"

继续这个话题，用 ta 讲述的自己的经历来详细描述一下。
\nX 之前应该是中山大学的学生，毕业以后拿到了广州那边某医院的一个铁饭碗职位。但是 X 认为自己根本无法适应中国的人情社会，也因为交流经历而无法忍受中国的科研现状，所以毅然辞职出国。如标题中所述，ta 现在在斯坦福并没有稳定教职，而是一年一续的合同（疑似雇佣关系），在国内外都没有社保，退休后也没有退休金，但 X 完全不 care 这些，ta 只想做自己觉得非常有趣的前沿研究（糖尿病相关）。
\n据 X 说，ta 早年有一次获得出国做交流项目的机会的时候，申到了国家提供的奖学金，签证也通过了，但导师不想放人，因为当时已经派给 ta 的项目还没有做完。项目做完的那天奖学金刚好到期，延期需要导师、各方领导和校长签字。导师非常不高兴自己的优质牛马要走，拒绝帮忙联系校长，ta 就直接自己冲去校长办公室门口要了签名。

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工作后怎么重回学术界啊

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第二印象深刻的是 X 到美国之后的经历。一开始老板给 X 发的钱很少，一个月 5k 刀，postdoc 都有 6k 刀以上。美国房租贵（门友吐槽这个的已经不少了），X 最开始得睡地下室。
\n据 X 说，组里对中国人的歧视情绪非常严重。X 和老板第一次见面，老板就说，“你们中国发的文章 50% 都被撤稿了。”实验室的显微镜坏了，大家首先会怀疑 X。即便不是因为 X，并且 X 最后帮忙修好了显微镜，大家也不会感谢 ta。一个新的课题需要有人做，老板会在问完组里其他人想不想做、并得到否定答案以后，最后才问 X。
\n我说，为什么不和老板争这些问题呢？中国科学家那么多，为什么你一定就要是被撤稿的 50%？2016 年最离谱的造假丑闻还不是日本人闹的？X 说，ta 的时间就那么多，ta 有很多事情要做，没有必要把精力花在和老板争辩上。
\nX 说，只有一次，ta 实在受不了了，对老板说，\"you are a bad person, you are a very bad person.\"。老板闻言很惊诧，问为什么。X 说，“我不想花时间和你解释，因为和你解释了以后我这一周都会情绪不好，我情绪不好就没法正常工作，我们产出就会少，你想要哪个？”老板沉默了十分钟以后又跑去找 X，说他还是想要个理由，X 拒绝。一个月以后，项目告一段落，老板又去找 X 要理由，X 就把老板的各种歧视行为狠狠地数落了一通。据说当时老板的头低得很低，非常非常低。组里人后来吐槽说，X 是第一个敢和老板吵架的人。
\n这个故事是本鼠感到最震撼的一集，X 把我以前只在 science fiction 里读到的那种痴迷学术和 strong minded 的疯批科学家形象表现得淋漓尽致。家里老人重复了好几次一句话，“你真是个疯子”。

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听描述，在实验室给老板打工也算一种 low paid 的工作。

\n","createdAt":"2024-03-30 07:36:13.653655","updatedAt":"2024-03-30 07:36:13.653655","replyToPostNumber":7,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":23,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":1941,"username":"john","name":"John"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":3273,"username":"anon18815924","name":null,"avatarUrl":null,"admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":28151,"postNumber":10,"raw":"[quote=\"anon18815924, post:8, topic:11105\"]\n组里对中国人的歧视情绪非常严重\n[/quote]\n\n多讲一句这个，一部分因为老板之前和组里一个中国人闹翻了，中国人走了，老板立下了”我这辈子再也不招中国人”的 flag。另外，老板自己是个犹太人，让我感觉多少有点荒谬 :rofl:\n（X 到他手下是大学直接分配的，刚开始的时候估计俩人都很麻）","cooked":"

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组里对中国人的歧视情绪非常严重
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多讲一句这个，一部分因为老板之前和组里一个中国人闹翻了，中国人走了，老板立下了”我这辈子再也不招中国人”的 flag。另外，老板自己是个犹太人，让我感觉多少有点荒谬 🤣
\n（X 到他手下是大学直接分配的，刚开始的时候估计俩人都很麻）

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第三点是 X 非常非常会提供情绪价值，应该有受了西方文化不少熏陶的缘故。三个小时里变着法把家里的两个长辈夸了无数遍，各种角度各种句式地夸，并且很会用恰当的肢体接触传递情绪。
\n也夸了我，但 X 毕竟第一次和我见面，跟我的话少一点，但也把本鼠夸得有点飘。
\n我最后说：你别夸（我对家里的长辈的称呼）了，都要给夸迷糊了。
\nX：没事，迷糊了就睡觉，睡觉好

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最后一个我现在能想起来的事情是，X 送 ta 的孩子上了美国某个大学，好像是“麦”字开头、全美排三十多名，记不清了。
\n印象深刻的是这个大学只有一门写作课是必修，剩下所有课程都是选修，听起来爽到离谱。缺点是大学不太有名，回国据说不好找工作，所以现在他们在想办法给小孩搞绿卡。

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暂时只记得这些了，如果其他记忆回光返照了，我再来补充一下。

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哦对，想起来一个，关于 X 一些对美国祛魅的感想。
\nX 的配偶（下面记为 Z）之前一直有个美国梦（据说世界各地的人都有美国梦），X 就把 Z 接过去在美国住了一阵。Z 实地体验以后表示狠狠地被下头了。
\n首先，一个不止 X 提到过的问题，就是美国现在依然有很多人歧视有色人种。其次，X 有一次和老板在课题思路上发生矛盾，X 希望听取各参与人员的建议，而老板则认为“历史上杰出的发明都不是团队合作结果，因为中国是注重集体主义的国家，所以你才会这么想”。种族和文化不同带来的阻力是确实存在的。
\n另外，还有两件小事。一次是 X 和 Z 开车在路上，路口转弯时突然碰到一个窜出来的行人，X 迅速停车并挥手致意让此人通过，行人直接大吼“你是撒旦的孩子”；另一次是他们住一间公寓，因为没有注意使用条款，用电热水壶烧水的时候把房子搞跳闸了，两个人去找房东的时候房东直接破口大骂。这两件事都把好脾气的 Z 吓得不轻，最后表示自己还是想在国内安心养老。

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黍黍润了，这下脑子里真没东西了。

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今天狠狠地锻炼了自己语言表达的能力，win 😶‍🌫️

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令人感叹，谢谢 lz 分享

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太成功了 😭 😭 😭

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自黄药师黄仁勋来，世人皆爱猫。余独爱老鼠之，可爱之态，活泼之动，实为人所难以抗拒。喵~

$\":mouse_hole:\"$ 🐁 🐁 🖱️ 🪤 $\":sob_mouse:\"$ $\":sweat_smile_mouse:\"$ $\":sleeping_mouse:\"$ $\":rolling_on_the_floor_laughing_mouse:\"$ $\":revolving_hearts_mouse:\"$ $\":pleading_face_mouse:\"$ $\":nerd_face_mouse:\"$ $\":mouse_hole:\"$ $\":melting_face_mouse:\"$ $\":mask_mouse:\"$ $\":innocent_mouse:\"$ $\":hugging_face_mouse:\"$ $\":frog_mouse:\"$ $\":face_with_cowboy_hat_mouse:\"$ $\":clown_face_mouse:\"$ $\":cherry_blossom_mouse:\"$ $\":cat_mouse:\"$

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50 岁还在当千老，天天被 pua 也不愿意回国，呆了几十年小孩还没有身份
\n脑海中浮现出买买提的 wsn 形象，这种人生经验实在没什么可听的

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想到张益唐了，宁愿在美国做几十年博后/讲师也不愿意回国拿个真正的教职，还非要嘴硬觉得自己在美国比在国内好。张有一点幸运的是拿了血卡，这人做了这么多年博后老板也不给办个 h1b，还能忍气吞声打工，有点斯德哥尔摩了

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